INSPIRATION | SELF-LOVE
Why Is Pain Necessary To Know Who You Truly Are?
How to make pain your best friend to help you deal with the essential things in life
“You now see me as constantly laughing, as groovy as can be — but apart from all these, you’ll never know that deep inside, I am also fighting an arduous conflict like anyone else. It's just that I try to let go of the things that are a big burden, to move on by choosing not to linger on my sad past.”- Josh Balerite Acol
Pain is a sort of a pointer and guide that something in your life is erroneous, and a transformation is necessary.
You cannot better your life if at this moment you are feeling fine and for you, you’re having the best life.
If you are unsatisfied, in pain, and experiencing setbacks, you are motivated to move on and change your present situation.
It is a very good catalyst to improve your conditions.
Take for instance, when you are heartbroken, you feel dismayed, unhappy and it is the worst thing you are experiencing.
Instead of just sulking in the corner, and filling your day with “what ifs” and “what about” or “if only”, make it your buddy and inspire you to go on and beat your former old self.
As Jim Rohn said,
“Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems; wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenges; wish for more wisdom.”
To help you cope with your being heartbroken, here are important points to consider on how to deal with it:
- First and foremost, acknowledge and embrace your pain. Do whatever you feel you want to do. If you feel like crying, then cry a bucketful, until there are no more tears to fall. Shout or scream at the top of your lungs. Make sure nobody is disturbed, of course. You may lock yourself inside your room.
- Listen to music, do yoga or exercise, or go out, and then go on, even for just 10 to 15 minutes a day, do this, and soon you’ll realize you will heal faster than just ignoring how you feel.
- Hey, dearest one, it’s normal to be abnormal sometimes. I mean it’s just fine, not to be fine.
Don’t be ashamed of what is happening to you. Everybody goes with it and through it. Don’t let it deplete you physically. This is the best time to nurture self-love — eating nutritious foods and getting the best sleep routine.
Pain is a principle in life. If you won’t make it a part of your day-to-day existence, then you are not a human being. All of us own a heart and a brain to enjoy the emotions of life.
4. Postponing or ignoring to feel your pain makes you heal a bit longer. The more you indulge in it, the sooner it fades out of your system. Then, pop! You can move on soonest.
5. Try to read self-help books, from there you will discover you are not alone.
6. If it’s too hard to do the healing process alone, why not try reaching out to a friend, more with kin. Or even with a mental health professional.
7. Journaling can help you, too immensely. Pour out in paper what you want to say to the one giving you pain and loneliness. Or better yet, list out all the good stuff that makes up the whole you before you meet him or her.
8. Keep in mind that “experience is the best teacher”. Try to decipher and assess the causes of what made your pain and heartbreak. This will make you a better person, as what others before had gone through.
When you have someone you are looking up to, haven’t you asked yourself what made them tough, special, and generous?
Yes, you bet, they have been through hard times that they are only paying forward to others to enable them not to suffer pain severely as they had.
9. Last but not least thing to remember, being very comfy and homey with your present self is worse than feeling the pain.
Naturally, when you are uncomfortable emotionally, you seek things to enhance yourself.
Accepting new challenges, going to different places, and meeting fresh acquaintances will not only help you heal psychologically, but intellectually, and spiritually as well.
Moreover, these will make you a stronger, smarter, and happier person as you reap self-development and growth.
That’s it for now, dear One!
This is my second-day post for Doc Chief Dr Mehmet Yildiz’s 100-Day Challenge for New Writers:
I would like to thank and tag the instigator of this writing feat, Dr Mehmet Yildiz, and my amazing writer friends, dear Bhav Bhavna Narula, pretty Doc Dr. Preeti Singh, Doc Fam Dr. Fatima Imam, Lucy Dan 蛋小姐 (she/her/她), Sahil Patel, Claire Kelly, Noorain Hassan, BMS, and Keno Ogbo.
Thanks a million for dropping by! Be safe and well ever!
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