Why is it that people always want to be someone they are not?
Oscar Wilde said: “Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.”
People who are born unique and have a different style of thought converge into a set of well popular ideas and fashion. The purpose of a new life is completely shattered when everyone out in the society is trying to be the same old Bank Clerk, or the Central Government employee or a film star.
I do believe that there will always be a desire to be someone who we like, someone because of whom we get inspired or someone who’s well established within our field. That is unstoppable and isn’t a bad thing either. But the problem arises when the urge to imitate people drives the person in such a manner that the unique self of a person is lost and only the footprints of the celebrity followed is exhibited and nothing of the original character exists anymore.
People always want to be something they are not. They just don’t want to be themselves because being yourself is not cool and being someone that you don’t even know personally is considered swag.
Why am I not tall like him? How can i get fairer than her? When can I buy the house that he owns? What does he eat to be able to be the macho he is?
Why can’t it be this way?
I am short that doesn’t mean I can’t outplay him on the field. I am dark but I sit in an office working daily for my family. I need to save effectively to provide a bright future to my children rather than buying that new house. I can eat whatever I want and whenever I want, I just need to make sure that I be fit no matter what I eat.
If these are qualities, habits or hobbies you admire in another, that’s fine! You can develop them as long as you take an interest to improve and grow yourself but please, don’t try to imitate others. There’s a difference between having a role model and being envious of other’s life. Treat them like a role model, learn from their mistakes and develop yourself.
People should start working on loving themselves more. You are who you are and if you think you need a change in yourself then you can do it, but that doesn’t mean you have to be someone else, you just have to strive to be an improved version of yourself. This makes people happy and allows them to live in peace with themselves and the world.
If you want to be as successful as the others, there’s no need to do something about it. It’s easier to read about other people’s great lives and to follow them on Twitter and Facebook, it requires no effort watch movies that momentarily make you forget your life.
To live the life you want you need to take action, and you need to follow your goals.
Inspired from many writers from the Web, Quora and LIFE.
