Why I’m tired of women

Admittedly, the title is a little bit of click bait.

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Here is the thing though, the more I read all of these articles and books and listen to all these podcasts and videos about what a guy has to do in order to attract a woman, how a guy has to be super confident, has to be sensitive to her emotions (but not his own), how a guy has to make sure that he has a sense of humor, a great profile and a great opening message if he is using those funky dating apps, how a guy is expected to approach a woman or at least make the first move all of the time, in spite of whatever constant rejections some men may face, how a guy has to have social status or “social proof” to show that he is somebody, and, not to mention all of the superficial things, such as a man needing to be 6 feet tall (or at least fairly tall), having to have good money, having to good looking, etc… the more I read and hear that stuff, the more discouraging and overwhelming it can be. Now granted, the whole “tall, having money, and being good-looking” stuff isn’t all across-the-board for all women. Even so, it still seems that there are certain things that men are expected to be in order to be considered “strong” or attractive or whatever.

And then you hear all this stuff about women finding 80% of men unattractive. Even though, to be fair, women have a lot of tools to supposedly make themselves more good looking than they might actually be, such as make up, wigs, weave, fake nails, eyelashes, perhaps colored contacts, and, let’s not forget, heels, you know, so that they can make themselves even taller than they are and make it even harder for men who don’t meet their height requirements to actually meet them. They can do all of this while finding 80% of men unattractive.

But if a guy is considered unattractive to women, he isn’t supposed to say anything about it or how it makes him feel because that is going to make him supposedly a loser in the eyes of society, especially if he decided to go the route of using escort services or prostitution. Then people would really call him pathetic, yet everybody knows how much harder it seems to be for men to attract women than it is for women to attract men in general (though there are exceptions, no doubt).

I guess what I’m trying to say is, I’m tired of feeling like I have to live up to some women’s expectations just to be deemed as attractive or “acceptable” in their sight. I’m not all that big on conversation or trying to force it either. I don’t want to buy into the game (or the idea that you have to “have game”), that you have to be a certain way, say a certain thing, speak a certain way, etc., just to get women to like you. They are simply human beings, are they not? So why does man have to do all stuff just to get the time of day? Here’s a novel idea: why can’t a man simply be himself (albeit the best version of himself) like people say?

In any case, like I said, the title is a little bit of click bait. Women don’t owe men their attention. And a man doesn’t have to go all out and do all of these things in order to try to attract women (even though it seems to be a natural urge and desire for straight men to do so). Nobody is forcing him. However, people are brought up in a society where mass media makes it seem like sex and/or being in a relationship is the end all be all. Society perpetuates the idea that a man’s worth can be linked to how attractive he is to women and how much he can “get laid”! I know that’s not all on women. There are indeed men who use such standards to judge other men as well.

So basically, I’m tired of the idea that I have to be a certain way or live up to a woman’s idea of what a masculine man or whatever is supposed to be. I’m tired of a dating game that has all of these tips, tricks, etc. to tell men what to do and what to say in order to be attractive to women. And I’m tired of a society that shames men for their sexuality, for being sexual beings, or for some men even dealing with escort services because, goodness for bid, those men may be a bit quiet without having much to say, hence “no game”, but may still desire female companionship.

I’m also tired of the hypocrisy that the world is supposedly all about “body positivity” and against body shaming and that women can be overweight (which is not a problem because I personally think that women can be attractive and sexy in all different shapes, colors, and sizes).

Yet all of the body positivity and anti-body shaming stuff goes right out of the window when it comes to short men because well, I guess men are supposed to be able to “just take it” 🙄. I guess they are supposed to just “be confident”, even if a lot of women not only make it painfully obvious that they simply aren’t into short men whatsoever at all, but can be also be quite hateful, obnoxious, and insulting about it as well. They can even wear heels to make themselves taller as well as to make the demand for men to be taller than them harder. But men can’t wear lifts or shoes to make themselves taller unless they get made fun of if people were to find out. Give me a break.

So, it’s not that I’m tired of women per se. I am tired of the so-called dating game and I’m tired of the idea that I’m supposed to live up to some women’s expectations or that man is supposed to be some “alpha male” and not a beta male in order to get some love. I’m tired of society making men feel like they have to always be confident, to never get hurt, or even to fit some of the more superficial standards such as making men feel that they have to get rich or die trying or to have some men feel like they actually have to break their legs to get taller just to be “worthy” of the love and affection of a woman. 🙄. Even if a man does all of these things to get a woman, who is to say that she won’t end up cheating on him or breaking his heart in the long run anyway?

In conclusion I simply want to be me. My hobbies and interests may not be “chick magnets” or anything, but why should I have to change them? Why should I have to change anything? Granted, self improvement and self development is a wonderful thing, but if I do it, I want to do it for me and, more importantly, for God. I want to be me, I want to be the best I can be, and I want to be free. Free from all of it. My way and the right way. Not yours. Not theirs.