Why I Will Never Date Or Marry A Conventionally Attractive Man

Summary

The author expresses a personal preference for not dating conventionally attractive men due to concerns about infidelity and the challenges of dealing with constant female attention towards their partner.

Abstract

The author begins by clarifying that their perspective is not a sweeping generalization about all attractive men but rather a personal stance informed by observations. They articulate discomfort with the idea of their partner being persistently pursued by other women, acknowledging that this could lead to feelings of anxiety and insecurity, regardless of the partner's loyalty. The author also raises the concern that the temptation to cheat might be stronger for someone who is frequently hit on. While recognizing that these are real-world issues, the author admits to being demisexual, emphasizing that a deep emotional connection is paramount for attraction, and that physical appearance is secondary. The piece concludes with the author expressing a desire to protect their heart from the prevalent issues of cheating and unfaithfulness in relationships.

Opinions

Attractive men often receive attention from many women, which can be anxiety-inducing and breed insecurity in a relationship.
The author believes that the attention attractive men receive might tempt them to consider cheating.
Physical attractiveness is not a priority for the author; a good personality and emotional connection are more important.
The author identifies as demisexual, meaning their attraction grows with emotional intimacy.
The author is wary of the commonality of cheating and unfaithfulness in modern relationships.
The author's stance is based on personal preference and experiences, not a blanket statement about all attractive men.
Despite potential criticism, the author stands by their opinion and advises against hating on their perspective.

And why you shouldn’t either

Before I start, I’d like to give a disclaimer. I’m not generalizing and saying all good-looking men are like this.

But this is just my personal opinion and some of my takeaways from having seen handsome men around me.

See the thing is, handsome and extremely attractive men are no strangers to getting attention from all kinds of women.

While it’s understandable that they do, I don’t think I’d be able to deal with the fact that women are hitting on my partner left and right.

It’s anxiety-inducing and breeds insecurity. Although my partner could be loyal and committed and not care much for the attention, those feelings of insecurity would be hard to just shrug off.

It’s normal to feel this way and it’s okay. When your partner is getting attention for his looks, it does create feelings of jealousy and insecurity.

In another scenario, seeing the amount of attention he gets from women might give him the urge to cheat.

I mean think about it, he has so many options. If women are throwing themselves at him, wouldn’t he consider it? Or maybe entertain the possibility?

And we all know this happens in real life. You might be thinking I’m being a Negative Nancy, but I’m just laying out all cards on the table.

All of these situations happen and I’ve seen them happen.

All I’m saying is that I’d think twice before involving myself with a conventionally attractive guy.

Honestly, for me though, I consider myself to be demisexual and I truly fall for a person when I develop a deep emotional connection with them.

Looks are secondary to me. If he’s hot as hell but has the shittiest personality, then he’s an automatic turn-off to me.

Attraction is subjective though. If I fall for a guy, he’d automatically become the most attractive man to me, period. My attraction and desire for him would grow with each passing day.

I think I’m just guarding my heart in a way. Cheating and unfaithfulness have become so common in this day and age. The last thing I need is to be involved with a man who’s already on the radar of so many women.

No thanks, I’ll pass.

This is just my opinion.

Please don’t hate.