Why I Love Not Having Kids & Wish People Would Stop Asking Me About it

“Kids are great, until they’re yours”

Look, I don’t hate kids. I actually love them. Mostly just while they are being civil and nice though.

When I was younger I pictured myself as a parent. Turns out, I have never felt that pull they say you get when you are being called to procreate. I might never get it.

And I am totally good with that.

For those that constantly question my childless choice, here are some of the many, many reasons that cross my mind nearly every day, of why I haven’t had kids, am glad I don’t have kids, and may never have kids:

• I don’t have to worry about something nonstop
• I can sleep as much as I want
• I can go on sporadic adventures
• I can take long or even endless trips
• I can wander whenever I feel the pull, without time constraints
• I can put my own health and sanity first
• I can be the ‘fun auntie’ with my nieces and nephews and then give them back when they get tired and cranky
• I can do whatever I want, exactly when I feel like it
• I don’t have to tell anyone what to do
• I don’t have to tell anyone what not to do
• I don’t have to censor myself or worry about setting a good example at all times
• I can fully unplug and not look at my phone for hours or days at a time
• My house stays (mostly) clean and nothing is unexplainably sticky

I know there are many amazing aspects of parenting, and frankly I respect and admire everyone who has chosen to parent or taken on caring for a child in any way.

I have been told that it is one of the most challenging yet rewarding jobs in the world, and I can only imagine that is the case.

Society has told us continuously over millennia that the proper or normal way to live life is to grow up, get an education, find a career and spouse, have kids, put said kids through school, and take annual vacations while saving enough money to (hopefully) retire in your 60’s.

I went a completely different route, all the way across the board.

And you know what? I am so very happy.

Not to say I will never be the lucky guardian or parent of a child, no matter how they come into my life. But until then, and for all of those of you out there who may wonder if a life without kids is worth living, I will tell you that for me, Yes it absolutely is. Well worth it.

And to the rest of you who keep asking, just stop. It doesn’t determine my happiness, my worth or value as a woman, or my contribution to society.

To Be Clear:

I take naps in my hammock several times a week, and think this singular fact alone should answer all questions of why I have chosen this lifestyle.

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