Why I Identify Myself as a Sapiosexual Woman

Are you the smartest person in the bedroom?

We all have our preference in dating. Our dating choices are often marked by either physical or mental attraction.

Except you are a non-libidoist asexual — someone who doesn’t experience any sexual feelings or have an active sex drive.

Different terms have been used to describe our individual sexual orientation.

If you are attracted to other people’s intelligence, you are a sapiosexual like me.

Nothing turns me on more in a stranger than a guy who knows how to engage in a constructive conversation.

That does not mean I do not like handsome champs. I take notice and appreciate his lips, arms, skin, and height.

It takes about 10 seconds to get over my admiration towards a gorgeous guy. What turns me on is the brain behind that beauty.

We can connect on a deeper level within an hour into our conversation if he expresses wit, intelligence, and a quick mind, than when he shows off his muscles and defined cheekbones.

I get bored of a cute face pretty quickly, especially when we have nothing in common to talk about.

If you want to get my attention, flex your verbal dexterity than your quads.

Your muscles are only useful in my bed, but your brain is what feeds my brain’s cells and expands my knowledge.

How do you define intelligence?

Over the years, researchers have tried to provide different definitions of intelligence.

Some argue that intelligence is genetic or hereditary, while others claim that intelligence encompasses certain abilities and talents.

Others claim that it is heavily influenced by the environment.

Most definitions of intelligence agree that it involves higher abilities- to learn, be emotionally aware, be creative, and adapt to meet the demands of the environment.

Which is to say, intelligence is based on either genetic or life experience.

According to Howard Gardner, an American psychologist, there are several forms of intelligence. Each represents unique skills and talents relevant to a particular category.

Gardner explained that the categories are made up of seven multiple intelligences: linguistic, logical-mathematical, spatial, musical, physical-kinesthetic, interpersonal, and intrapersonal.

Linguistic intelligence people like William Shakespeare and Oprah Winfrey can analyze information and create products that incorporate spoken and written language, such as speeches, books, and memos.

While spatial intelligence like Frank Lloyd Wright has the ability to generate, retain, retrieve, and transform well-structured visual images, e.g., sculptors, surgeons, chess players, graphic artists, or architects.

Everyone is intelligent within their unique skills or talents. And it is that unique ability sapiosexuals are attracted to.

Who is a sapiosexual?

Sapiosexuality means different things to different people who identify as being sapiosexual.

A person who seeks intelligence as a pre-requisite for sexual attractiveness.

Sapiosexual is a way people express their desire for and attraction to intelligent people. Here the core recipe to determine if someone is sexually attractive is their intelligence rather than their body.

While intelligence is generally a natural and common factor in human attraction.

However, intelligence is not just a bonus in a potential partner for a sapiosexual; it’s a requirement.

Some sapiosexuals have a loose preference for intellect. They can have sex with anyone who isn’t smart, while others won’t give you the time of day if you aren’t oozing of Sherlock or Shakespeare shrewdness.

However, being a sapiosexual is not just about having a report card. Intelligence is not only proven in certificates.

You can be terrible at academics but have the wits and wisdom to turn a woman on.

Although sapiosexuality is typically associated with women, that’s not to say men cannot be sapiosexuals too.

Anyone who can only become aroused or romantic when intellectually challenged or stimulated is a sapiosexual.

Does being a sapiosexual make us horrible people

Sexuality has to do with how you identify yourself, how you experience sexual and romantic attraction, and your interests and preferences in sexual and romantic relationships and behaviors.

Who your sexual or romantic partner is at any given moment does not necessarily define who you are as a person.

Sexuality can be fluid: it changes in different situations for some and over the years for others.

You may be familiar with popular terms like asexual, bisexual, or heterosexual used to describe sexuality.

However, there are over forty terms that can describe sexuality. As humans, one person can be identified by more than one sexuality.

The most important thing about recognizing one’s sexuality is that you will feel connected to others in the same group as you.

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