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interacting and stays away from a group for some time, another object will come asking “What happened? Why are you sad?”Dude, when I hear this question I feel offended, but it’s so socially accepted that I cannot even demonstrate my annoyance.Can’t I have some minutes without a lot of voices talking in my head, please?<h1 id="4da8">Interact with family is tiring or the Christmas party paradox</h1>It does not mean I don’t like people I’m interacting with, but it means that at some moment everybody (or almost) needs a break.Okay, I have to admit that for some groups I will need more breaks than for others. Meeting with relatives normally is one of the cases breaks are so essential. Relatives are people you didn’t pick up to be part of your life, they were only born in the same family you were born in.So even though they are nice people, with a good heart, there is a big chance that common tastes are not so easy to find in this group. And our brains need to work more to generate conversation that doesn’t come naturally and to laugh when we don’t want so much to do that.These types of meetings are normally remembered as a great day in the company of the family, but a thousand uncomfortable feelings were felt but people normally hide it under the carpet of memories.Maybe it could be less heavy if everybody was allowed to go outside, see the sky and think about other things for a while. But no!"If you go outside, the aunt Jane will be offended." "If you go outside and alone for a few minutes, your cousin will think you didn’t like the joke." "If you stay alone, sepa

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rated from the others, your grandma will think you are depressed. "But if you smoke, you will go outside, stay quiet, relaxed, see the clouds, the birds, take some fresh air and nobody will contest.— "Where is Patricia?” — “She is outside with her cigarette!” — “Ah, okay!”Maybe a lot of people now are smoking because they need the only allowed excuse to be alone during a party. Think. About. That.Because of it, people are destroying their lungs!<h1 id="69c8">Let people with their own space for God's sake!</h1>Jokes apart, staying alone is healthy. I repeat it many times. We need to normalize this behavior. Not only in a meeting, but in a wider context: at a restaurant, at the beach, in a theater, at the movies too.Thoughts can be a great company.We need to make normal the personal space without interactions all the time. It’s not fair for people to have it only if they lock themselves in a room at home.<h1 id="ee34">The takeaways</h1>Before I start smoking only to have this excuse without needing to explain my reasons every time I need to stay with my thoughts, I keep trying to clarify that people can be extroverts and at the same time, need solitude.Please, let’s raise the new human beings to understand it and this way we can reduce the smoking in the world.*For smokers: I’m not making a joke with your addiction. I'm joking the fact people cannot let a person alone if they are not smoking. Please, don’t feel offended. And if you are trying to get rid of this dependency, good luck! All the best!:)</article></body>

Why I Envy People Who Smoke

Who doesn’t respect your space, induces you to smoke

You probably already heard smokers saying “I’m going outside to smoke and I will be right back in a few minutes” or something similar to that.

The smoker goes outside or to the place reserved for people who smoke and while the burning element stays in their mouth and fingers, they stay quiet, thoughtful, contemplating a nice view, and when there are no other smokers around, they can be alone.

The person who smokes has the great excuse to be far away from people for some minutes without being asked:

“Why do you want to stay alone?”

Staying alone is a real necessity

From the box of ideas that says “People cannot be sad” and “Be happy all the time”, comes “People cannot stay alone”.

I like to meet my friends, family and have a good time with them. But my brain has some limitations for this type of activity. I cannot talk for very long and listen to a lot of people talking for hours. I can’t. I need a break.

I already tried to take a break but people don’t allow it.

It’s almost a law of Physics. When an object is not interacting and stays away from a group for some time, another object will come asking “What happened? Why are you sad?”

Dude, when I hear this question I feel offended, but it’s so socially accepted that I cannot even demonstrate my annoyance.

Can’t I have some minutes without a lot of voices talking in my head, please?

Interact with family is tiring or the Christmas party paradox

It does not mean I don’t like people I’m interacting with, but it means that at some moment everybody (or almost) needs a break.

Okay, I have to admit that for some groups I will need more breaks than for others. Meeting with relatives normally is one of the cases breaks are so essential. Relatives are people you didn’t pick up to be part of your life, they were only born in the same family you were born in.

So even though they are nice people, with a good heart, there is a big chance that common tastes are not so easy to find in this group. And our brains need to work more to generate conversation that doesn’t come naturally and to laugh when we don’t want so much to do that.

These types of meetings are normally remembered as a great day in the company of the family, but a thousand uncomfortable feelings were felt but people normally hide it under the carpet of memories.

Maybe it could be less heavy if everybody was allowed to go outside, see the sky and think about other things for a while. But no!

"If you go outside, the aunt Jane will be offended." "If you go outside and alone for a few minutes, your cousin will think you didn’t like the joke." "If you stay alone, separated from the others, your grandma will think you are depressed. "

But if you smoke, you will go outside, stay quiet, relaxed, see the clouds, the birds, take some fresh air and nobody will contest.

— "Where is Patricia?” — “She is outside with her cigarette!” — “Ah, okay!”

Maybe a lot of people now are smoking because they need the only allowed excuse to be alone during a party. Think. About. That.

Because of it, people are destroying their lungs!

Let people with their own space for God's sake!

Jokes apart, staying alone is healthy. I repeat it many times. We need to normalize this behavior. Not only in a meeting, but in a wider context: at a restaurant, at the beach, in a theater, at the movies too.

Thoughts can be a great company.

We need to make normal the personal space without interactions all the time. It’s not fair for people to have it only if they lock themselves in a room at home.

The takeaways

Before I start smoking only to have this excuse without needing to explain my reasons every time I need to stay with my thoughts, I keep trying to clarify that people can be extroverts and at the same time, need solitude.

Please, let’s raise the new human beings to understand it and this way we can reduce the smoking in the world.

*For smokers: I’m not making a joke with your addiction. I'm joking the fact people cannot let a person alone if they are not smoking. Please, don’t feel offended. And if you are trying to get rid of this dependency, good luck! All the best!:)