Why Drama Is A Distraction To Being Your Best Self
The chaos of dramatic energy
Drama is glamorous to many, we escape to our tv screens and follow celebrities that promote drama as a lifestyle choice. They sell us by preaching a thrilling, exciting life if we subscribe to the idea. Tune in to see people be humiliated on television, or to see who cheated on who in an edge-of-your-seat thrilling finale.
Have you ever known people who want to stir up drama and create chaos in their lives? It’s not always done on purpose either. It’s also not always ill-intentioned. And to be honest it doesn’t matter the intention of the people or person creating the drama.
All that matters is that we recognize when people are creating drama, and we choose not to participate in it. People want to sell you their ideas and thoughts, they want you to buy into their narratives, and the stories they tell themselves. They want you to buy the story they’re selling.
But here’s why I know for sure that drama is a big distraction to stop you from being your best self, that is of course unless you want to be an actor.
Drama perpetuates negative thinking.
We all have darkness within us. We all have a dark side and negative thoughts we have to manage on a daily. What if I was to tell you that drama perpetuates this thinking in you, because it does.
People who love drama often enjoy activities such as bitching, putting other people down, judging others, and gossiping about small things to do with other people. These things are all negative and toxic. They are all small-minded things too.
Even just being in the same room as people engaging in these past times regularly brings your thoughts and feelings down a notch. It is inevitable you will take on some of this negativity, even if you don’t engage in it.
Don’t block your blessings by surrounding yourself with negative thoughts and feelings. Anxiety and depression are often brought on by us feeling like we can’t control or stop our negative thoughts. And these environments fuel our inner voice to participate in these activities.
If you feel your life under seize by chaotic energy, trust your instincts. People like to gather with others who will help them play out their pain and issues. At the end of the day recognizing that a lot of people are not self-aware and self-responsible is good to note.
If you have no choice but to interact with drama lovers, people who want to make their life a soap opera, then make sure you don’t buy into the acting. It’s very easy to fall for the manipulation of others. Try and remember though that by buying into chaos, you too are attracting it into your life.
Drama takes up time.
When things turn dramatic or chaotic our time gets taken away from us, minutes turn to hours, and hours to days. Nothing is nurturing about subscribing to drama, and nothing will help us become better people if we are caught up in daily events that rule our time.
Time flies by as it is, imagine your whole life has been revolving around the undertaking and events of others. When are you going to take the time to live your life, not live through others.
Time taken away by ruminating on dramatic events or participating in gossip for hours on end is just the time taken away from peacefulness. It’s also time taken away from a million and one productive things you could be doing to better yourself or enjoy yourself, which are one in the same thing.
Drama breeds more drama.
For all the people out there who love to have a whinge and create a mountain out of a molehill, it’s worth noting that like anything we focus our energy and time on we manifest more of. If you are spending your time making the small things dramatic, you are spending your time seeking more and more dramatic events and circumstances into your life.
This may be fine if you live for the drama, but it is ultimately a distraction from better things you could be doing.
I think this is also why some people believe they are unlucky. Because bad things keep happening to them, or disastrous events unfold and they take no part in claiming any responsibility for them. People don’t think it matters if they spend a lot of their time talking badly about others or dramatizing things, they don’t think It has any impact.
But just as small acts of kindness ripple across our world and turn into great acts of love, so too do dramatic and chaotic acts. Acting like everything in your life is always dramatic will just ensure it always will be.
This in turn just takes more and more time disappear. When will you ever have the time to spend on yourself.
Drama promotes a lack of responsibility and the herd mentality.
If you’re engaging in negative bitchy conversations about others all the time, you are not taking responsibility for yourself. Often people who talk badly about others also have people talking badly about them and treating them not so good. This becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy whereby the person is getting all the proof they need that ‘such and such’ is an awful friend for example.
People who engage in these antics aren’t taking responsibility for themselves, and in this sense not even thinking for themselves. When groups of people become so tightly bound to one another they form a collective ideology, and then work together to promote this to one another. No one thinks for themselves anymore.
Dramatic people try and pull others into their circle to help reinforce the ideas they have of the world.
In this sense you will never be free to think for yourself, to follow your life purpose, or to work on the things that are important to you.
Drama is a scapegoat for not dealing with issues and putting things off.
Dramatic and chaotic people are creating distractions in life. It’s clear that when someone is in love with the drama they are often seeking others to reinforce their view of the world. Drama queens create dramatic distractions all the time so they don’t have to look head-on at their issues, or truths.
It’s easy to put aside your issues when you’re spending your time talking about other people. It’s also easy to put things off when you have no time for yourself to deal with your problems. Ignoring them will only prolong and perpetuate issues you already have.
Working on ourselves isn’t easy. It seems like blowing things up into a big deal and major catastrophes are what some people do best. Things only become a big deal if you make them that way.
Dramatic people are often really serious too. They find it hard to be light-hearted and instead choose to be personally attacked all the time. People who live with a dramatic mentality are often victims. They feel that others are out to get them and they can’t understand the unfairness of life.
The opposite of drama is ease. I think I’d rather attract more of this into my life. The world already has enough drama in it.
It’s easy to want to see the best in others, but it’s equally important to protect your sacred space, don’t undervalue your time. Spending time with people who don’t get you or who don’t respect your time, space, energy is just a distraction to you fulfilling your highest potential.
Often dramatic situations and people teach us valuable lessons and things about ourselves too. So It’s always worth holding gratitude for the positive outcomes of drama in this way.
And to be fair we all carry our fair share of drama with us through life. It becomes a choice though, how much we want to act it out, or how much we want to transform it.
To see your drama clearly is to be liberated from it.
— Ken Keyes
People will try and pull you out of your light, so you can sit next to them in the darkness, not everyone will want you to shine.
This is why it is important to cut people out of your life if they encourage or create stress. Drama and chaos are toxic and will distract you from being your best self.
Our intuition is here to serve us, and if we trust it, we can be set free from most of the drama and chaos in our lives.
Drama is just a distraction to you being your best self.