Why Don’t Writers Have a Dating App?

We have feelings too, you know

I have yet to come across a dating app for writers. I’ve heard of dating services for people from all walks of life, connecting them according to their religious, political, or nutritional habits; people who seek to build relationships with others who share their passion.

But where are the writers?

Why have I never come across a dating platform designed for writers looking to find a fellow lover of words? Someone who realizes the potential of creating a whole new world at the tip of their fingers.

I may be speaking for a number of writers when I say that our love lives aren’t the most exciting. That’s why we spend so much time writing about them! But all jokes aside, we tend to crave human connection just as much as everybody else, even if we pretend to be dissociated from the world when scribbling our own.

The lack of writers’ representation in the dating scene inspired me to jot down a couple of reasons why we are worthy of romantic recognition, including excerpts from my personal attempt to join the dating crowd.

A Writer’s Journey Through Dating Apps

I have tried a couple of platforms, needless to mention names as they’ll appear on the list of the most popular dating apps. All it takes is registering for an account, then I’m all set to browse through countless singles eager to connect with me. I get sent a few messages, and I’m already in the process of embarking on a meaningful connection. Or, not.

My conversations usually end up in three places. 1) The other party seeking to have a virtual one-night stand, 2) The other party completely forgetting about my existence, or 3) The other party uninterested in pursuing further conversation about anything related to writing. Now, the last situation I can accept, as not everyone is meant to enjoy what you do.

However, sometimes, I cannot help but seek to connect to someone who may share a slight part of my passion; a slight part of my soul.

So You’re a Writer?

Some conversations tend to advance beyond the icebreaker stage, leading to people genuinely wanting to know more about my writing endeavors. They’ve been hit by curiosity and embark on a quest to know everything about the writer they’ve just met, not me.

My identity is suddenly consumed by that of a writer, and everything I say or do has to relate to the life of a writer, accompanied by questions. Those endless questions.

So you’re a writer? Yes.

What do you write? Oh, it’s complicated.

Oh wow, I’ve never met a writer before. I’m not a rare species, but thank you.

A writer, huh? You sure have a way with words. Thanks! That is sort of the job of a writer.

A Match Made in Heaven

Writers understand the struggle of being a writer.

When you, as a writer, meet someone who ticks all the right boxes who also happens to be a writer, you feel recognized; felt; understood. It’s an inexplicable familiarity. A reunion of lost pieces.

It goes without saying that people can like people without needing to have the same passion, since they can connect on other levels and interests. In fact, varied interests serve for an exciting relationship. But, as writers, I believe we are imaginative enough to recognize that there is probably a single writer out there, looking for another single writer whom they won’t have the chance to meet if there isn’t a platform dedicated to uniting hopelessly romantic writers.

It’s only a matter of time before we see this platform come to life.

Angelina Der Arakelian