Why Don’t People Close The Window During Sex?

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ste they have.</p><p id="e282">But what does someone want to tell me who forces his sex noises on me? If he’s a man, does he want to brag about his masculinity? If she is a woman, does she want to provoke or emphasize her emancipation?</p><p id="9980">If I have to listen to other people having sex, I feel uncomfortable as if I were listening to a fight between strangers. Either way, it’s none of my business.</p><p id="8866">Besides, a lot of sex sounds aren’t very sexy either. Men like to grunt when they get going, and a woman’s sharp scream hurts my ears. If you are involved in the sex act in question, such noises have a completely different effect than if you hear them from a distance.</p><p id="eb24">The hardest thing is not to laugh out loud when there is moaning and cackling in the apartment opposite or a few floors above us. My wife and I sometimes have to be very careful not to call out any comments. You don’t want to disturb anybody, do you?</p><p id="cf93">But if I can be tactful enough not to interrupt the neighbors’ love play with funny hissing calls, why can’t they be so considerate and just close the windows when they feel like it?</p><p id="53ea">I’m not concerned with morality, or that children might listen. Sex is not immoral, and children can be told stories about toothaches and the like. What bothers me is that people make less and less distinction between private and public.</p><p id="e036">There are things about the private life of strangers that I don’t need to know. One of them is their sex life.</p><p id="2272">How do you see it? Am I too sensitive, or does it also bother you to hear your neighbors having sex?</p><p id="f77b"><a href="https://readmedium.com/d855be749e6c?source=post_page-----834577ca2b4a----------------------"><b><i>René Junge

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It’s a warm summer night, and I’m sitting on my terrace. We live in a street with many four-story apartment buildings where many young people live. I’m reading a book, and suddenly there’s a loud moaning nearby. What is this? Why do I have to hear this?

Sex is a beautiful thing. I wouldn’t want to miss it. But for me, it’s also a very private matter. I would never write about my sex life or discuss it in public. The reason is that it concerns not only me but also my partner. I cannot talk about my sex life without at the same time talking about my partner’s, and as long as she does not explicitly agree, I have to keep quiet about it.

Many people apparently don’t care if everyone knows when they have sex and what they sound like when they have it. I can’t really understand that, but if it doesn’t bother them, that’s their business.

I don’t see it that way when it comes to sex with the window open. If you leave the window open during sex, you’re asking the neighbors to listen. That’s different than when the sounds can be heard through thin walls because you can’t assume any intention.

Sex with the window open is for me the same as making loud music while the window is open. You force the neighbors to listen. In the case of music, some people might want to show what cool taste they have.

But what does someone want to tell me who forces his sex noises on me? If he’s a man, does he want to brag about his masculinity? If she is a woman, does she want to provoke or emphasize her emancipation?

If I have to listen to other people having sex, I feel uncomfortable as if I were listening to a fight between strangers. Either way, it’s none of my business.

Besides, a lot of sex sounds aren’t very sexy either. Men like to grunt when they get going, and a woman’s sharp scream hurts my ears. If you are involved in the sex act in question, such noises have a completely different effect than if you hear them from a distance.

The hardest thing is not to laugh out loud when there is moaning and cackling in the apartment opposite or a few floors above us. My wife and I sometimes have to be very careful not to call out any comments. You don’t want to disturb anybody, do you?

But if I can be tactful enough not to interrupt the neighbors’ love play with funny hissing calls, why can’t they be so considerate and just close the windows when they feel like it?

I’m not concerned with morality, or that children might listen. Sex is not immoral, and children can be told stories about toothaches and the like. What bothers me is that people make less and less distinction between private and public.

There are things about the private life of strangers that I don’t need to know. One of them is their sex life.

How do you see it? Am I too sensitive, or does it also bother you to hear your neighbors having sex?

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