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ing around her.</p><h2 id="3057">5. She’s Endlessly Patient</h2><p id="0ca0">The alpha woman might not be known for her patience, but the delta woman has a surplus of it. She’s not rushing through life in a hurry. She’s savoring it as she goes. The delta woman also extends this patience to others and takes interruptions to her schedule in stride.</p><p id="d267">You won’t find her pacing in a waiting room or pulling a Karen move when she doesn’t get immediate service. She’s perfectly happy to sit with her own thoughts and to wait patiently. She’s not the one who gets attention for asserting her entitlement. She’s the one you didn’t notice in a room because she was patiently waiting rather than making waves.</p><h2 id="ad83">6. She Tends Toward Low Self-Esteem</h2><p id="f969">Even though the delta woman doesn’t require outside validation, she can struggle with low self-esteem. She can be the wallflower, easily overlooked, and it can, at times, undermine her sense of self-worth. She thrives when she surrounds herself with positive, self-motivated support, but she’s susceptible to energy vampires who seek to drain her dry for their own purposes.</p><p id="5d1e">The delta female might not have the confidence of an alpha or sigma, but this doesn’t mean she thinks she has no value. Rather, she sometimes wonder if anyone else sees it. Just because she doesn’t need outside approval doesn’t mean she doesn’t long for outside appreciation.</p><h2 id="0c77">7. She Can Be Conflict-Avoidant</h2><p id="f3b0">The delta woman usually smooths down ruffled feathers with no one the wiser. She’s a natural mediator, but it’s mostly because she’s highly conflict-avoidant. Fights and arguments stress her out, so she’s adapted to avoid them.</p><p id="1c48">This makes her an effortless communicator, but when her usual bag of tricks doesn’t work, she’s unlikely to address an issue directly. She’s more likely to busy herself or to run and hide than to face a problem — or a person with a problem — head on.</p><h2 id="c1da">8. She’s a Worrier</h2><p id="92ac">The delta woman’s naturally caring personality also means that she’s an innate worrier. She thinks and over-thinks because she’s constantly anticipating — and avoiding — conflict in any form. This hypervigilance often pays off when she successfully manages tension within a group, which often reinforces her worrying nature. Even though she claims she wants to be free of the stress of worrying, she also feels like her worrying is rewarded when she thwarts conflict and achieves peace.</p><h2 id="e11d">9. She’s a Nurturer</h2><p id="bac1">You may have noticed that the delta woman in your life has strong nurturing energy. She’s the friend who will bring you soup when you’re sick or water your plants when you’re out of town. She enjoys taking care of others and feeling useful.</p><h2 id="6d77">10. She Stays Focused on Self-Improvement</h2><p id="adbb">A key trait that often goes unnoticed is that the delta woman stays focused on improving herself. She’s aware of her challenges and diligently tries to be a better human being. Sometimes, she fails. What she doesn’t do, and will never do, is stop trying.</p><p id="b4df">Don’t get this twisted. She’s not walking around flinging toxic positivity in every direction. She just looks for ways to keep improving even when it’s tough. Her bounce back after a setback is impressive indeed!</p><h2 id="d60c">11. She’s Shy</h2><p id="10b4">The wallflower delta female isn’t stuck up or judging you. She’s just shy. Her reserve can be misinterpreted. She’s genuinely friendly, but she’s often uncomfortable being the first to initiate contact or a conversation.</p><h2 id="0f40">12. She’s Slow to Commit</h2><p id="238c">The delta woman sounds like a catch, doesn’t she? She’s caring, kind, self-aware, and driven by peace. But that doesn’t mean she’ll be quick to commit. In fact, she will likely move at a snail’s pace just to be sure she’s making the right decision.</p><p id="7ce5">Her slow relationship pace could drive partners crazy, but it just means that she’s taking it seriously. She wants to make sure she can honor her commitments and that the

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relationship is the best fit for her. You can be sure of her loyalty once she finally takes the plunge, but until then, she’ll be slowly going over a pros and cons list without rushing to get to some perceived destination.</p><h2 id="71e6">13. She’s Quiet Unless She Has Something to Say</h2><p id="b9cb">The delta woman doesn’t just talk to hear the sound of her own voice. She’s quiet until she has something important to say. She usually has incredible insights to share if others will pipe down and listen. When she’s not sharing those insights, she’s more likely to fade into the background as an observer until she has something important to contribute.</p><h2 id="bf10">14. She’s Aware of Her Flaws</h2><p id="74a3">Self-awareness is certainly a key trait of the delta woman. She knows she’s not perfect. Luckily, she has no desire to be. She’s aware of each of her flaws, and she doesn’t excuse them. She accepts them even though it undermines her self-esteem at times. Because she combines this self-awareness with a growth mindset, she’s getting better every day.</p><h2 id="a515">15. She’s Loyal to Others</h2><p id="03bf">Her hesitance to commit aside, the delta woman is one of the most loving and loyal. She has a real sense of devotion to the people she loves, and she’ll do almost anything for them. Her loyalty has limits, however. She’s capable of cutting out unhealthy connections and deciding to love them from afar if necessary.</p><h2 id="4a42">16. She’s Incredibly Intelligent</h2><p id="e468">Your studious, shy, and quiet bookworm is likely a delta woman. She’s incredibly intelligent but doesn’t brag about it. She loves deep conversations over small talk, and she constantly soaks up knowledge. She’s not just book smart either. She also has the street smarts to go with it.</p><h1 id="d8cb">A Final Word about the Delta Woman</h1><p id="739e">The delta woman is quiet, smart, and caring. She sometimes worries that she’s not good enough, but that doesn’t stop her from showing up or doing her best. She’s determined to keep getting better.</p><p id="0701">Although the delta woman finds herself at a lower rung on the sociosexual scale, she’s happy just to be included. She doesn’t need to lead. She doesn’t mind following. She just wants to be included, valued, and seen — just like anyone else.</p><div id="1f58" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/to-the-emotionally-unavailable-partner-with-love-16232d9981a3"> <div> <div> <h2>To the Emotionally Unavailable Partner, With Love</h2> <div><h3>It’s time to do the thing you’re most afraid of</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*QmR0vE0MFTU_6Iaj)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="dbe6" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/7-things-the-nice-guy-does-that-a-good-man-would-never-do-132f002998d"> <div> <div> <h2>7 Things the “Nice Guy” Does That a Good Man Would Never Do</h2> <div><h3>Louder for the men in the back</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*lKeBjIo0NI9ToGXz)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="e435" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/21-traits-of-a-high-value-man-9c846eca76fe"> <div> <div> <h2>21 Traits of a High-Value Man</h2> <div><h3>How to recognize and appreciate the high-value men in your life.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*Zsa568jOV2oJwNHs)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

Why Do All Medium Alternatives Sound So Enticing? Is It a SCAM?

Some COMMON SENSE combined with these PSYCHOLOGICAL principles helped me make some sense of it.

This was my title at the time of the first draft of this story and I think it’s not irrelevant for this final piece either so I’d put it here: Why is Everyone Going Crazy—and Bullish—Over Medium Alternatives?

Disclaimer: OMG, I just hate it whenever I have to put one. But here you go. There’s no intention to prove anyone wrong or prove myself superior. I may be wrong. It’s simply my take on the topic, my perspective, which you may find dissimilar to yours; I respect yours, too.

The talk of the town

When I first started writing continuously on this platform, somewhere in September, there was this buzz about Vocal Media all around.

Lately, the subject has changed but the discussion hasn’t so much. The new talk of the town is Simily.

Wait, do you notice anything similar between these two, Vocal Media and Simily? I do.

They are both talked about as Medium alternatives on Medium.
They are both pictured as some easy money-making machine or cash cows—just republish your old Medium content and you’re all set.
Almost all the articles around them focus on just one thing Medium lacks, and that is it pays for external views.

Although, Simily too doesn’t pay for external views. But who cares (me included)? We all want to satisfy our dopamine needs, don’t we?

Thanks, Warren Patterson for telling us about that in this story.

Trust me, nobody among us wants to do the tough job—WRITING. We all want to keep doing ‘the distractions disguised as less important, but still important’ jobs.

And that is everything except writing. Sadly, we all suffer from this.

Choosing the best tools, best platforms, best sources of image, best tags to use, resources for ways to monetize, ways to gain more followers…

But we rarely obsess over WRITING, if ever.

But why do Medium alternatives sound so enticing?

It’s simple: Because they are pictured promising + as if it’s a no-brainer to hop on to there, and start writing on that platform.

And as we know, humans are wired to make an easy decision than the right decision. Because making the right decision takes effort.

Right Decision: I want some data; you have to put in some effort… Easy Decision: F*ck! Can’t you see me?! I’m right in front of you… We: Right decision?! Effort?! Shoo… shoo… Easy decision?! I’m coming for you baby!

But behind this decision-making, I think, there are some thoughts involved which we can break down using a model from behaviour sciences.

I don’t want to bore you… or sound any smarter… I just want to put it into perspective.

A thing called “Present Bias”

In behaviour sciences and psychology, Present Bias stands for the trade-offs we made when we’re biased in the favour of our present—when our thinking fails to judge short-term and long-term objectively.

“Present bias is the tendency to rather settle for a smaller present reward than to wait for a larger future reward, in a trade-off situation. It describes the trend of overvaluing immediate rewards, while putting less worth in long-term consequences.” —Wikipedia

I think this same is happening when a lot of writers are moving to Vocal Media and Simily without putting any conscious effort researching the grounds.

Almost all the writers that I’ve read are constantly putting stress on the fact that you get $X on ABC views, and external views are included. But in reality, that’s not included, in the case of Simily.

Okay, let’s even drop that for a moment. Assume external views are included. Then what? How’ll you get that?

SEO, you’d say. But that will, for sure, not make every article of yours land on Page 1 on Google, given neither these platforms have a high Domain Authority (DA) and nor most of you (me, too) have a substantial follower base.

If you do have a huge Twitter following, it’s pretty tough to bring them to your Vocal or Simily page however. Most of the platform’s algorithms are cruel to external links and that includes Twitter and Facebook too. Most of us have already witnessed it, don’t we? If not, this isn’t any rocket science; use common sense and you’d find out why.

Let’s cut to the chase: It’s highly probable that we will get more views on Medium than most of its alternatives. Both internal and external. Internal, because it has got a far bigger and vibrant community than its peers. External, because it has got a high DA of 95 upon 100.

It all boils down to that $20 per 1,000 views (Simily’s case) or $0.02 per view. Correct me if I’m wrong. But there are only around 2,500 members on the platform!!!

That’s exactly what Present Bias is all about.

$0.02/view as an incentive sounds great, but look at its short-termness (if that’s a word). It kind of promises you instant Return On Investment (quite high ROI too). But considering factors mentioned above, you’ll have to struggle to make even $20.

On the other hand, Medium doesn’t pay for external views. But its Partner Program is quite huge. And you can have a small, but significant, piece of the pie. But first you’ll need to cultivate connections, authentic connections and consistently provide value to the community.

That sounds like a long-term commitment. And here we start to under-value the rewards. But once, you have enough paying members that love reading you, you’ll not have to worry about anything but writing.

Final Thoughts

I’m not discouraging you to try new platforms. And nor am I saying that Medium is the best and all of the so-called alternatives are rubbish. What I’m trying to say is:

Don’t run behind everything that’s hot right now. Take the time and the effort to make a right decision. Everyone can make an easy decision, just to say. And if after your due diligence it feels right and worth it, JUST GO FOR IT. If not, don’t give a shit about missing out. FOMO is just in (y)our mind.

I don’t think this story would be complete if I didn’t tell you that I actually have an account on Simily.

Yes, I actually created my account over there amidst initial frenzy and FOMO. But I highly doubt I’ll ever write anything over there. I didn’t know that this platform was mainly for fiction, or that it had only a couple of thousands of accounts (maybe only a thousand back then), still what I only cared about was money—the result, not effort.

I’m glad that I now have a better understanding of things and a sane decision-making appetite.

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