Why Do You Take Your Frustrations Out on Self-help?

I hope it at least makes you feel better

If self-help was a person, it’d be somewhere shaking its head at you guys right now.

Or actually it’d be somewhere feeling sorry for all of you who point fingers at him because he didn't magically make your problems go away.

What’d you think? That the self-help book would wipe all your worries clean?

He'd laugh at you for getting mad at him instead of growing up and facing your unresolved traumas and pain head-on.

What did self-help do to you to make you so angry?

You say self-help gives you wrong, sometimes even harmful advice. Are you sure that's the case and how is that?

It’s not wrong just because you couldn't make it work. That’s your problem, and you gotta figure out why.

You say self-help gives you false hope. False hope? Really? I don't think that's the case because all self-help was trying to do was get you to see your true potential.

Well, it's a shame you couldn't see it for yourself.

Go ahead and give up. You'd rather give up than take responsibility for the mess you are in.

You say self-help stops you from seeking professional support. Self-help didn't tie your hands to your back and say not to get up and seek help. Did it? No!

Self-help doesn't tell you to not talk to a therapist about your past that's obviously affecting you.

You choose not to seek help and then you blame others. You even blame books and articles and that just says a lot about where your mind is at.

You say the advice in self-help doesn't work because it's just common sense. Well not everybody has common sense so self-help is relevant.

You decide what to do something with the information you receive in self-help materials.

And you don’t apply the information because you've already made your mind that self-help is bullshit so you sit back and blame everything else but you for the problems you refuse to get help with.

You read little bits and pieces of self-help and then go about your life expecting it to transform your life when your mindset is fucked up.

And until you work on your mindset, you will always hate self-help because it will not work no matter what you do.

Self-help requires you to take action and its action you don’t want to take. You don't want to put in the work. You thought it'd be easy. And that's why you are so angry.

It's no one's fault but you, and maybe it's time you grow up and take responsibility for where you find yourself. Admit the role you played instead of pointing fingers at a book.

You say self-help is a form of avoidance for those who refuse to deal with their problems. How?

Self-help isn't the one avoiding dealing with its issues. Self-help is what's trying to help you deal with your issues. You are the one avoiding.

You are the one who avoids dealing with your issues and hoped self-help will magically make it all better. And when you find it doesn't work that way you get mad and throw tantrums blaming everyone but yourself.

Self-help teaches no one to suppress their emotions or avoid dealing with their issues. Self-help pushes you to open up your wounds and look at your shadows, and that scares you too much.

It scares you so much you come up with every reason to stop doing the work. You make excuses like “self-help is bullshit” just so you don't have to face the fears it’s trying to get you to face.

Putting the blame on the self-help industry makes you feel you are doing something about the issue when all you do is slow your healing process and stunt your growth.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but self-help will not fix a lifetime of childhood issues, the inadequacy and shame you feel in a single weekend just because you picked up a book and skimmed through.

Self-help alone won't take your troubles away. Its purpose is to guide you while you fix your own troubles.

If you believe self-help is bullshit, then that's true because whatever you believe, you are right.

Instead of getting mad at the self-help industry for trying to help, take a long hard look at yourself and your fucked up mindset.

Take a look at your fixed mindset that is keeping you stuck in fucked up ways and fucked up situations because you are too busy blaming self-help and the world for where you find yourself.

We all have to grow up and own our shit someday.