Why Do Some People Have Similar Bad Relationships?

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s oblivious and neglectful.I was never heard in my family, so now, in order to be heard, I have turned up the volume in my voice. I have often said that I married “my mother.” She had eight kids to deal with and six of them were at home when my dad died. I can’t blame her for anything because she did her best. She grew up an only child and came to America with her mother on a ship. It was in 1920 or so.She grew up in a very restricted home. I never met my grandmother or grandfather. They were too old or had passed away when I became aware of them. I would often hear my mother mention that her mother was in a nursing home now or moved to another nursing home. So sad for Mom.<h2 id="7d44">In present time</h2>My current significant-other says I sound like a commanding officer when I want to get my point across and I get louder and louder. This is not good. I am not aware that I sound like that. I hurt his feeling with my attitude. That is not great for a long-time relationship.All I am looking for is a “voice” and being through a lot of relationships that did not work, because I was never heard or significant.<h2 id="9a17">Passed relationships</h2>All that pers

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on wanted was a soft place to land and convenience. He would say, “ I wish I could have you when I needed you, then put you away until the next time.” So kind, NOT and so sad. I was in love with him.I was also not a positive person and did not know any other way. He would also heard him say once, “Why are you so negative? It’s embarrassing.”Now that I think about it, he really didn’t like me much. That relationship lasted about eight years. We are better as friends. I will never see him again anyway.I know I need therapy but it doesn’t matter anymore. At my age, not much matters.My only dream would be to help people financially and take the burden off them, but, I can’t do that at this point, either.See negative!Jo Ann Harris is an author, parent, book devotee, writer, copywriter, and film fanatic. She is an autodidact who learns about everything and rows her own boat. She grew up and worked in Atlanta, Georgia and lived there sixty years. She writes articles about love, hope, personal life stories, advice and poems. She is a published author with an article in Woman’s World magazine in October, 2017.</article></body>

What does the other person want that they can’t get?

People who choose such partners must derive pleasure from being mistreated. They must become aware of this then they can move on to other, more appropriate relationships. They never learn that they can have better.

I grew up in an abusive household. It was mostly emotional abuse and that’s what I got in all my relationships. Some scared me because they tried to be physically abusive and I got rid of them. Some were more subtle until I couldn’t tell or it lasted too long as I was so engulfed I couldn’t get out.

I was married for eighteen years, living in another country, with twin babies without money. That would take some unraveling! A “wolf in sheep’s clothing.” A narcissist, “voice hog” and a person that was oblivious and neglectful.

I was never heard in my family, so now, in order to be heard, I have turned up the volume in my voice. I have often said that I married “my mother.” She had eight kids to deal with and six of them were at home when my dad died. I can’t blame her for anything because she did her best. She grew up an only child and came to America with her mother on a ship. It was in 1920 or so.

She grew up in a very restricted home. I never met my grandmother or grandfather. They were too old or had passed away when I became aware of them. I would often hear my mother mention that her mother was in a nursing home now or moved to another nursing home. So sad for Mom.

In present time

My current significant-other says I sound like a commanding officer when I want to get my point across and I get louder and louder. This is not good. I am not aware that I sound like that. I hurt his feeling with my attitude. That is not great for a long-time relationship.

All I am looking for is a “voice” and being through a lot of relationships that did not work, because I was never heard or significant.

Passed relationships

All that person wanted was a soft place to land and convenience. He would say, “ I wish I could have you when I needed you, then put you away until the next time.” So kind, NOT and so sad. I was in love with him.

I was also not a positive person and did not know any other way. He would also heard him say once, “Why are you so negative? It’s embarrassing.”

Now that I think about it, he really didn’t like me much. That relationship lasted about eight years. We are better as friends. I will never see him again anyway.

I know I need therapy but it doesn’t matter anymore. At my age, not much matters.

My only dream would be to help people financially and take the burden off them, but, I can’t do that at this point, either.

See negative!

Jo Ann Harris is an author, parent, book devotee, writer, copywriter, and film fanatic. She is an autodidact who learns about everything and rows her own boat. She grew up and worked in Atlanta, Georgia and lived there sixty years. She writes articles about love, hope, personal life stories, advice and poems. She is a published author with an article in Woman’s World magazine in October, 2017.