Summary

The article discusses the persisting expectation for men to pay for dates despite modern gender roles, suggesting that this tradition remains because men have not fully reciprocated in sharing domestic and childcare responsibilities.

Abstract

The author of the article addresses the common question of why modern women still expect men to pay for dates, despite claiming to be non-traditional. The piece argues that while women have taken on more financial responsibility, men have not proportionally increased their participation in household chores and childcare. This imbalance has led to a broader scope of responsibilities for women, while men enjoy more leisure time. The author reflects on personal experiences with the 50/50 approach, which resulted in men taking advantage of the free time without contributing equally to the relationship. The article suggests that allowing men to fulfill their traditional financial roles can lead to more reciprocal support in domestic duties or parenting, and ultimately, a more balanced relationship. The author concludes by advocating for men to embrace their biblical role of working to provide, as a means to maintain a harmonious dynamic in relationships and communities.

Opinions

The author challenges the notion of modern women being non-traditional by pointing out that women still bear the brunt of housework and childcare.
There is a critique of the "50/50 thing" as men have not held up their end of the bargain in sharing domestic responsibilities, despite women taking on more financial roles.
The article suggests that men have more free time due to women's increased burden, which they often use for personal leisure or to engage in misogynistic "red pill" ideologies.
The author shares a personal account of how the 50/50 mentality backfired, leading to men exploiting the situation for their own gain without reciprocating.
The piece advocates for a return to traditional financial roles for men in relationships, as it may lead to more help from them in other areas.
The author believes that men find more value in being admired for fulfilling their masculine duties than in having extra free time.
The article humorously suggests using biblical references to remind men of their responsibility to work and provide, as per the punishment of Adam in the Garden of Eden.
The author invites both men and women to engage in a discussion about these theories and express their thoughts in the comments section.

Why do Modern Women Still Expect Men to Pay For Dates?

I keep hearing people ask this question all the time.

“If you are a modern-non-traditional-woman, why do you expect men to be traditional?”

And my question is “what exactly makes modern women non-traditional?”

Because last I heard, women still did most of the housework…and most of the childcare. For a majority of relationships, men have not actually picked up the slack.

That was the point of the original 50/50 thing remember? To take some burden off of women for housework and childcare, while we take some burden off of men financially.

Sooooo…women did their part and took some of the financial burden off of men, but the men have not reciprocated in like manner.

Their job as men has gotten easier, while women’s job has gotten BROADER.

That’s why they have so much free time to sit around concocting red pill bullshit and running around calling each other “Alpha” and “Beta” like overgrown fraternity pledges.

So now we should make men’s job even EASIER and not require them to do something as simple as paying for dinner?

LOL. Nah…

I used to have that 50/50 mentality.

I learned my lesson. It was never 50/50, and the more I gave him free time and tried to help him, the more time he had for cheating, video games, disrespecting me behind my back, and getting on my nerves.

I learned you don’t help men be men, because they will not help you be women. They are not grateful for the free time we give them.

However, if men are allowed to do their more “masculine traditional” role, sometimes they surprise you. Let them pay all the bills and pamper you with money, and they might help you out more around the house, without you having to nag them to do so.

If not, they might be a more involved parent and have no problem giving you a break from child care duties. Even if he doesn’t, chile, at least he’s doing something in the relationship by paying the bills. 50/50 men are more likely to do absolutely nothing.

So for me, I’m about letting a man be a man, and I can’t stand red pill foolishness. So if a man asks me to or seems to expect me to pay for a date, we won’t have a second date.

Keep men BUSY. Don’t make their jobs easier for them, because the easier their job is, the harder your job becomes.

Why? Because it’s God's will. You heard me. Wasn’t Adam’s punishment in the Garden of Eden that he would have to WORK?

Ok, then! Just like they love to beat women over the head with the Bible, smack him a few times upside the dome with that one. lol.

In any case, men would rather have your admiration for them doing their masculine duties than having more free time. So let them do what they want to do to impress you, and let them make your life easier, so we can focus on the children, household, and communities.

But you men and women, let me know what you think about my theories in the comments section, and thank you kindly for reading! :)

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