Why Are There Constantly Being No Shows?

Summary

The web content discusses the prevalent issue of people not showing up to events they've RSVP'd to, causing disappointment and disruption to the organizers and highlighting societal issues related to commitment and popularity.

Abstract

The author of the web content expresses frustration over the frequent occurrence of no-shows at events, particularly on platforms like Facebook and Meetup. They share personal experiences of organizing events where attendees failed to show up, leading to feelings of rejection and anxiety, a phenomenon known as Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria. The author suggests that the problem is not solely due to the internet or social media but reflects a broader societal issue where individuals prioritize events hosted by popular figures over those organized by less socially prominent individuals. The author calls for a mindset shift, emphasizing the need for commitment and consideration for others' feelings, and suggests that Meetup.com enforce stricter rules to address the issue.

Opinions

The author believes that it is rude and inconsiderate for people to commit to attending an event and then not show up or cancel.
There is a perception that individuals are more likely to attend events hosted by popular or well-liked people, rather than those with fewer social connections.
The author attributes part of the no-show problem to societal selfishness and a lack of commitment to events that do not directly benefit the individual.
The internet and social media are seen as contributing factors to the no-show issue, as they may reduce the perceived importance of in-person gatherings.
The author suggests that a policy of immediate removal from groups or events for those who RSVP 'yes' and do not attend could help mitigate the problem.
The author reflects on their own experiences with organizing events and the anxiety it causes, particularly in the context of ADHD and emotional dysregulation.
The piece concludes with a call to action for readers to consider the impact of their actions when committing to events and to engage in a collective mindset shift towards more empathetic and reliable social behavior.

Why Are There Constantly Being No Shows?

This is to those who say that they will be coming to an event and don’t.

I don’t know what’s wrong with people these days. If you say that you will show to an event that someone took their time to create: SHOW UP.

Today is Halloween, and I wanted to join in a Samhain celebration on Facebook that someone else created. I came on time. However, 30 minutes later, I had to get off because I waited for others to show up who didn’t. ISN’T THAT RUDE?

Of course, you might say that’s Facebook for you. But I don’t think Facebook is to blame. I do believe that the internet and other stupid excuses are somewhat to blame. But I believe that it has more to do with this whole notion of Popularity.

People would instead show up to an event than a corporate or organizational event or show up to a party organized by someone in their circle of friends who is more popular.

I have ADHD, and I know that I have issues with communication and emotional dysregulation (Something like this makes me very angry). And this has happened to me in the past.

The first time that it happened to me was when I was 12. So I wanted to organize my own party instead of my mother doing that for me. I was doing this days in advance, and no one came on the day scheduled. One of the girls that I have invited, her excuse was that she had to go to church (My birthday was on a Sunday).

Years later, I also did become an organizer for a Singles Meetup.com Group. I did organize events like a dinner at restaurant weeks in advance. Ten people say they will show up, I book a table for 10, and only two people show up. I know that one waiter at one of the restaurants wondered what happened to the other eight.

Because of these experiences, I start getting extremely anxious every time I have to organize other events. You can call it Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (There is such a thing). Nevertheless, I have had a few successes with a few pagan events, except for the last one that I did where one person was late, and she had to contact some more people to come.

Of course, I am not the only organizer on Meetup with this problem. Meetup.com, I know, is trying to help those organizers with this problem unsuccessfully. I know that one organizer made a strict rule about showing up, only to have people be angry at them. So here’s an idea that Meetup should enforce to all organizers. If a person says yes to going to an event and doesn’t show up or cancel, organizers should kick them immediately. Because to everyone else, they are being RUDE.

I wonder if these no-shows know how much people had to do to organize these celebrations? It’s obvious that they don’t care about the amount of time and effort that goes into putting these altogether. Yet, they wouldn’t mind going to a party of someone that they like and enjoy their company.

If you don’t like someone because you think that they are annoying, and you say yes to their party invitation. But you don’t show up and make an excuse as to why later, is being rude. If you don’t like someone and they invite you, just say no.

I still think that it is this idea of who you like who is popular that is to blame. I mean, why do you want to go to a party that the most popular person in your social circle or school, organizes and not to the ones who have problems finding friends and who are more often lonely? I think that there needs to be a mind shift here. Everyone wants to be liked and have a good time at a party. Yet, not everyone gets that chance. There needs to be a mind shift so that everyone gets a chance and not just a few because you don’t like them.

The only way that I am going to blame the internet for this, is because people would rather spend more time on it and social media than meeting in person. Then again, as I am writing this, I just got a response from an FB Adult ADHD Group about this subject saying that they think the huge problem is “…people’s lack of commitment to anything outside of themselves.” This to me says that we are living in a society that is all about selfishness and not thinking about how the other person feels. Why are there trolls online in the first place?

I am just glad that I am not the only person that this happened too. There are others like me that had felt the same way. I still think that there needs to be a mind shift.

How do you feel if you organized an event, like a birthday party, and have no one show up? Think about that before you say yes to the next even you’re invited to.

Why Are There Constantly Being No Shows?

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