Why am I now considered “Cis” Rather than “Woman.”
A Mother’s Struggle to Understand
By Audra J Pitts
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Understanding sexuality was much easier when I was young, and I know that in this day and age, there are many more gender identities and so many confusing personal pronouns. The children who wish to use the “He/Him” or “She/ Her” pronouns, whether assigned the opposite at birth or not, are the easiest to remember. My son was given the “She/Her” pronouns at birth and remained that way for fifteen years, so it is understandable that I need time to adjust to the change and may accidentally use the wrong ones now and then. The neologistic English third-person personal pronouns used by non-binary individuals are confusing. The term non-binary is perplexing in itself.
I understand that the denotation of the word non-binary is a term that one adopts to explain their non-traditional gender profile of neither male nor female. I am not sure what other choices there are, but I respect the individuals who use the term. The pronoun “They/Them” is almost impossible for me to understand.
A young teen who identifies as a lesbian uses the pronouns “They/Them,” which is confusing because a lesbian is thought to be a female and, therefore, should be referred to as “She/Her.” Will the time come when the use of any pronouns will completely vanish from society? Then, of course, this is further complicated by introducing the identity of being pansexual. When I was growing up, although not as openly admitted, this was considered bi-sexual, now bi-sexual is an attraction to only male or female instead of male, female, and the unknown.
To further complicate things, the term cisgender is used to explain my gender identity, but I was just a woman when I was younger. ` With all these newly introduced gender identities, sexual preferences, and personal pronouns, I am sure I will offend someone at some point during my existence. Consider this my disclaimer and public apology for any offense I may cause.
