Who taught you to shave?
A right of Passage that is a shared bonding experience between father and son, mother and daughter … or perhaps not?
Most girls and women I have met were taught how to shave their legs and armpits and such by their mothers and/or sisters.
To the other side, many boys and men I have met were taught to shave their face by their fathers and/or brothers, uncles, or maybe even grandfathers — especially since not all men have facial hair to shave.
A friend and I shared this bit of our history with one another this morning and, like me, she was also self-taught. No bonding moment with mom or sis.
No one to teach us how to safely maneuver that blade around the ankles and knees, or just over the skin in general. No one to teach ‘the best ways’ to shave the armpits without hurting your skin or your neck — I still haven’t mastered this but it keeps my neck limber soooo I guess it works for me lol
I distinctly remember asking more than once and each time was treated like an annoyance or burden — as I nearly always felt and still feel to this day.
To keep it short and perhaps not so sweet, my mother and my sister both made me feel pretty shitty with this experience — just like so many other moments with all members of the family in my life and my becoming a woman, but is was what is was and I am learning to hopefully slowly move-on and let-go.
I cannot change the past. I have no control over them and their choices then, now, or in the future. I can focus on my present and my future. I can cherish in my friendship and in my own strengths I didn’t know I had the whole time I was growing-up, and I can choose how I show-up in this world each and every day :)
These moments might seem trivial and/or unimportant, but they are all the many moments that shape and mold us. They are all the many moments that let us know how much someone cares. Little moments add up because there are so many of them each and every day.
As much as the ‘big’ moments matter, make sure you show-up for the small ones too — they might just wind up being the ‘more’ important ones in the long-run…
How about you? Do you have a bonding experience/story about this part of growing-up and coming of age? What was it like? Please Share. As much as it hurts sometimes, I enjoy hearing people’s happy stories and experiences.
My friend told me about how she taught her girls to shave, and how the older also helped her younger sister — it brought such a sweet smile to her face.
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