Where I Come From, It Is a Men’s World. It’s Men First
Mundane Mentality
Where I come from, you do not raise such an issue as this. If you do, you will be branded a feminist who misleads women. We are meant to believe that it is a men’s world. It is men first.
I am a woman.
So what? I get into an argument with a man, he slaps me, I feel the pain, yet they tell me I provoked him. I should have been quiet, I should have been patient. I should apologize to him.
I get into an argument with a man, I slap him, they tell me I have no respect, no home training. I should have been quiet, I should have been patient. I should apologize to him.
Because I am a woman, I don’t have a right to be angry. So, the degree of my innocence is directly proportional to the degree of my silence in the face of oppression and brutality.
Why?
Because it is a men’s world and I am a woman.
If my husband cheats on me, I am told to tolerate it to save my marriage. The barbaric and stupid excuse is that “it is in their nature to cheat”.
The unsolicited advisers come up with their mundane counseling. They say I am a woman. I should slim down, dress better, cook better, pray harder, and be more pleasant to him”.
If I cheat on my husband, I am called a whore. I have committed an abomination. I have no right to look elsewhere for the love and emotional support I lack at home.
I am an irresponsible wife and mother. That is what I am branded. But my husband is free to cheat. He is free to do as he wishes because he is the man. A man can do anything.
So I am sent packing, from the home we both built because I cheat. Because I am a woman. But my husband can go on to cheat. After all, they say it is in men’s nature to cheat.
If a man is 28 and runs a company. He’s tagged wonderful, hardworking, focused, career-oriented, successful at a very young age.
If a woman is 28 and runs a company;
“Hmmm… she is not even married, unserious, can not order her priorities right, a hustler, loves money, let her go and get a husband”. That is how tongues will wag.
And I wonder if being successful has anything to do with a person’s marital status.
It is because I am a woman. I am not allowed to have wits or be a prodigy. I cannot be financially buoyant, professionally successful, or be treated with respect without a man beside me.
Then I am tagged too civilized; eyes too open. Not good to be kept as a wife.
Where I come from, it is men first. Do not even dare talk about equality. It is taboo. It is men on top; women under.
