Hope * Healing * Humour “Letting Go” Prompt
I Let Go and Asked You to Do the Same
Taking the necessary steps to realign with peace and freedom
We met online at the beginning of the pandemic and began excitedly communicating back and forth between two different continents.
After a year and a half, we were able to meet in person. I was incredibly excited to pick him up at the Vancouver airport in November 2021.
I am very attuned to people’s energy, and as soon as we were in the same physical presence, my body alerted me that this would not be the love story I had sincerely hoped it would be!
He would be staying with me for three months, and on day two, I went for a walk and called my friend, who was on a crowded bus with her students on their way to a hockey tournament, in tears.
My goodness, did I ever try! A month later, it could not have been more apparent that this was not meant to be a relationship. A friendship? To be determined.
Awkward was an excellent word to describe this situation I found myself in.
Cultivating deep, honest, authentic soul connections is very important to me. I learned he was not the person I thought or believed him to be for reasons such as deflecting anything he did not want to hear and take in. I felt like I had another teenager in the house, but my son was the mature one.
He flew back home, and as time passed, I realized that any level of friendship was also not an option. I noticed that he did none of the endless things he told me with absolutely certainty he was going to do. Future faking is a term I learned in a previous relationship. Check!
People who know me know that if I tell you I will do something, I will do it, so I have assumed the same in others. Ah, trusting people’s words -it’s been a big, big lesson!
Trust people’s actions, not their words, are the wise words I live by now!
In many ways, he appeared to be a likable, creative, talented, and spiritual kind of guy, but the words did not match up with his actions. I called him on it and stopped communicating altogether.
In addition, seeming emotional maturity, honest self-reflection, ability to have deep, mature communication, desire to grow, positive energy, and much more were missing.
I asked the question in a recent article,
“Have you experienced people who appear a certain way in what they say, how they say it, how they write, and how they respond, yet you learn it’s a crafted act, and you don’t feel inside how it all appears — creating massive confusion or cognitive dissonance?”
He continued alternate ways of connecting with me through my writing.
There were many months when I did not write and share what I wanted to be expressed because I knew his eyes were taking in my words.
Six weeks ago, an email from him appeared. He told me about an environmental thing. A topic he knows I am very engaged with, and he seems to be, too.
After two brief emails, I said, ok, have a good 2024. I could feel his parasitic energy trying to get a hold on me like it had in the past.
I knew I needed to cut ties (again) completely and immediately.
He did not get the hint from “Have a good 2024” and asked if I wanted to attend an online gig. I said, “We are not friends,” and once again, enjoy your life.
He responded with, “Why did you say that?” I told him in the spring that it was time to release our friendship completely, and I have not contacted him. He said, “I am trying to be close to you because of your wishes.” What????!!!
I then realized he was completely delusional. He said, “Would you like me never to contact you again?” I said, “Yes, that would be best.”
I deleted his following email and contact from all places but one.
Soon after, I posted an article, and there he was.
What the heck??? He is still hanging on long after I have entirely LET GO and asked for the same!
Do you think he would appear again, knowing full well it was him I was referring to in the following article?!
If you guessed “yes”, you are correct.
I had a wacky energy day yesterday, and this was why.
Later that evening, I finally removed him from this last online place, and my writing space is clear and mine again!!
When you release someone, and they hang on in any way, it is about them and not respecting you and your wishes.
I let go of people who do not respect me and my boundaries.
I let go of people who don’t care how I feel, who won’t or can’t hear me or listen to what I have to say, share or notice.
I let go of people who pretend to be someone they are not, as well as their immaturity.
I let go of future fakers and energy vampires and those who manipulate and refuse to let go when asked!
Peace. Freedom. Liberation.
I love this quote from Liberty Forrest, in her article, “Mastering the Art of “Letting Go” “:
“At the end of the day, letting go is simply about repeatedly making the choice to leave the past where it lies and refocusing your attention on what is.”
Usually, my inner prompts are the catalysts that call me to write. Liberty’s “Letting Go” prompt at Hope * Healing * Humour is a fresh and alive topic for me, so I decided to give it a go.
Thank you for the lovely Hope * Healing * Humour community space you have created!
I enjoyed Sara Fellers’s article about finding a place of peace to write! Her opening paragraph, wow! Her pictures and journey are beautiful.
