When You Feel Down Do This To Make Yourself Feel Better Tremendously

Yes, by doing this simple yet rewarding thing.

With the prevalence of social media platforms, such as FaceBook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, Tiktok..etc, it seems like we are able to stay connected with our friends and family easily, yet somehow I feel we are more distant away from them.

When was the last time you had a fun conversation with your friend?

For me, it was probably 3 years ago if not longer.

We are all caught in this empty busyness of hustling onto the day to day mundane work. During our spare time, we are often too busy minding other people’s affairs rather than focusing on our own.

We get distracted easily, we feel anxious, we are uncertain, we get sucked in the various paradoxes of choices, our energy level is unstable, and sometimes we just feel down and we can’t explain why.

And here is a good tip I’d like to share with you that can make you feel better when you feel down.

Finding Happiness in Helping Others

I still remember the time back in college, for a computer class, I was helping a fellow classmate from Venezuela. The assignments and the test seem easy and straightforward for me at the time, but it was challenging for him.

My fellow Venezuelan friend told me that he ate a jar of chocolate for dinner without anything on it because he was depressed with his midterm mark.

I was like dude, are you f*^king crazy.. you could potentially die...

I literally thought he was nuts, just like the label of the chocolate brand, but without the -tella and add an s after nut.

He told me because he was depressed and felt helpless that he might fail the class. At that moment, I told him I would help him prepare to do better with his assignments and score better for the next test.

He seemed to feel better and nodded his head.

I have been depressed and in that situation too many times myself, so I can totally relate to him except I wouldn't just randomly eat a jar of chocolate jam. I’d prefer a jar of bubble tea with some puddings and taros instead! Yum! :P

Anyway, all jokes aside, I decided to help him the best way I can. We spent time working on each class assignment together after each class session and even after school hours. I would also quiz him from time to time to help him prepare better for the test.

A few weeks later, to his surprise, he had improved his assignment and project marks and got a better result for the test as well.

He was exhilarated and I could see the brilliant smile on his face which also made me very happy for him.

We continually carried that momentum until the very end.

In the end, he was satisfied with his final grade, and I was glad that I was able to help him out. He was very grateful for my help, and I am very honored that I was capable of helping him out.

Deep down, I felt delightful for him. It was an indescribable, tremendously rewarding experience for me.

The feeling of being able to lift and help another fellow classmate, friend while improving and deepening my learning is a double win for me.

Before this story, I didn’t realize the secret to joy can be this simple.

Are you ready for the secret to happiness?

It is simply…

cheering and helping another fellow human being.

After that experience, I made up my mind, which will be part of my life’s mission that is to always cheer and helping others to my best ability I can whether physically or emotionally supporting them because that's what makes me happy when I see a beautiful smile put on another person’s face.

My Journey On Medium So Far

When I was forcing myself to write every day on Medium, I always experience writer’s block and don’t know what to write about. Whenever I miss a day of writing on Medium I would feel terrible about myself and the whole day just felt unproductive.

I often ended up reading and supporting other fellow writers’ work. The more articles I read, the more I feel like procrastinating because they are all so GOOD. I wonder when I can get to the top writers’ level? The more time I stay on this platform, the more I feel Medium is truly a gold mine that’s like 10x better than any other social media platform out there. On Medium, people actually read each other’s work and give support to one another. I feel I have found an awesome place to improve my writing while learning a lot from other writers.

The publication also acts like a family for me, where we have our fellow editors to help with editing our work before our article is good to be published. I am grateful to encounter many great publications so far including The Innovation, The Ascent, and a huge shout-out to one of my favorite publications ILLUMINATION for the tremendous support!! And shout out to a few friends I can think of now, that is incredible, if I forgot to tag you, please forgive me. Amy Marley, Aldric Chen, Charlotte Zobeir Ali, Dr Mehmet Yildiz, Daisygwoods (Cocoa Griot), Esat Artug, Liam Ireland, Britni Pepper, Genius Turner, Vishnu*s Virtues, Victoria Ichizli-Bartels, Ph.D., Jessica Cote, Jan Vajda, Jesús Salazar, Nikhil Meshram, Rebecca Romanelli, S M Mamunur Rahman, Lanu Pitan, Louisa Oliveros. ❤

What’s more, there are some great editors and writers who would generously leave private notes on my article to point out the grammatical errors spotted on my post and sharing it with me in a helpful and supportive manner, which I am deeply grateful for! Tony Young, Jr., Stephen Dalton, Thank you so much!!❤

Final Thoughts

Whenever you feel down or depressed, try to cheer others up because you will realize how much better you feel afterwards.

We are all blessed if we have the ability and capability to help others. Even if it’s just one person or one pet, that is noble.

Let’s continue to cheer and encourage one another. As we grow and have more influence, we can further help and broaden our reach to create a better positive impact in this world.

Helping others is equivalent to helping ourselves, encouraging others is a way we get to feel encouraging ourselves, and cheering for others is also cheering ourselves up in ways that bring joy to others while making us tremendously happy both intrinsically and extrinsically.

Maya Angelou said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” So let’s make other people feel important by cheering them up because it also gives us a great sense of joy and fulfillment in doing so.

If you are not convinced yet,

I encourage you to try it out and find out for yourself because it works for me, and I am sure it will for you the same! :)

Keep illuminating the vibrant lights in you and others around you! ❤