When you can’t see the forest for the trees or “I’m looking for something, but I don’t know what…”

Hello my reader, colleague, client and just friend!

Just recently I returned from the forest, where I again touched my favorite archetype (about this here Witch + ).

In this material I use the metaphor of the forest, but in a slightly different context.

Our thinking is such that we can shift the focus of attention from details (trees — particular) to the general (forest — generalization) and back.

Generalization is our nature; our brain tends to classify, group, and see an image holistically.

This also applies to the image of oneself or loved ones, BUT the world of trauma is such that the one whose psyche has been traumatized “does not see the forest for the trees.”

This is how the mechanism of splitting works, in the case of trauma and looking at oneself, or, if we are talking about looking at others (in the case of strong disappointment in a close friend, the image of the loved one is split).

It’s all about loss of integrity.

As a result of trauma, thinking (view, focus) narrows to incredible dimensions (trauma is not the only reason, but the basic one).

Consciousness is fixed on details.

If we talk about “traumatics,” then its entire focus is on pain, and therefore on failures, losses, etc.

The growth of consciousness (psychological growth) gives a person peripheral vision, which means he has a choice.

In a state of “no way out (choice),” a person is fixated on the idea of hopelessness, impossibility and a dead end.

This is the view from trauma.

But in the course of growing consciousness and working on oneself, a person reaches a new qualitative level precisely because he begins to see possibilities.

The lack of choice is not its absence (at least there is always some choice), but the inability to see it as a result of narrow-mindedness and fixation.

A common example is unhappy love, when for a person in love, as the song says, “the white light converges like a wedge” on one partner, often on the one who is not suitable for him at all.

A healthy feeling does not become loopy and does not lead to suffering. If this happened to you, you need to look deeper for the reasons. That’s what psychologists are for!

“Wedge” is an acute angle.

Thus, this is the effect of narrowed vision, when a person drives himself into a corner, leaving no room for choice.

In our example with the forest, this is equivalent to the fact that a person has rested against one tree and cannot move from his place.

I will give one more example, from an everyday level, which illustrates how consciousness demonstrates choice.

Imagine a trivial situation.

Do you have a favorite mug…

Oh, sorry, it was… because it crashed.

You’re sooo sorry.

And you are in search of similarity.

But, alas, you never find what you are looking for.

At some point, you begin (maybe without noticing it) to buy new mugs.

First one, then the other. Some of them resemble the old one, but some do not.

And then one morning, you, opening your favorite cabinet, waiting for your favorite coffee, suddenly realize that you are starting to think “which mug should I drink coffee from today?”, because it suddenly turns out that you have a lot of mugs and each one is new. day you can drink from different.

At a certain stage of life, it is very important to give up something “valuable” (something that seems valuable, but in fact is outdated and not relevant) familiar, for the sake of opportunities (choice).

It may not go away from you, but you yourself have the right and the ability to add variety to your life.

Alternatively, you can start with a couple of mugs)).

This method helps you get out of the corner you may be driving yourself into and see the forest, which has many trees.

The notorious female “I have nothing to wear” when the closet is full of things, this is not a story about the closet being empty, but about the fact that the choice does not happen because the focus is narrowed.

By the way, I will share with you (and a little later I will demonstrate, including how the installation is dismantled) how you can give the old a new life. I don’t do this myself, but turn to those who can do it better than me.

You can’t mend a broken cup. It is better to get rid of the old and damaged in a timely manner (including from imposed attitudes and ideas about you, your identity), BUT when it comes to feelings and trauma, I am for transformation.

The environmental friendliness of EOT therapy, which I use as a basic technique, lies precisely in the fact that even the most destructive attitudes/parts of the psyche at first glance are not removed, but are transformed, and therefore become beneficial to the wearer.

Both in the example of things and in the example of people, I observe how what is broken, devalued, takes on new forms and a new quality, and therefore a new sound.

As you walk the path, turning around, one day you will understand how much you have done, how much you have achieved, how you have grown, how you have transformed. You will gain a new value, a new quality when you see the forest for the trees!

You will see the path, you will become whole.

Make up your mind!

The search for something that you yourself don’t know is the search for a new I (your new identity, not imposed from the outside, but growing from your essence), that self with which you are not yet familiar.