When You Can’t Feel Loved

Being human, we have different feelings about different things.

We can feel extremely happy because of some events and extremely depressed because of some bad experiences.

In life, we make decisions based on our feelings and perceptions about certain things.

For example, when we’re in love, we always hope that the other person will have similar feelings and love us back in the same way we love them.

We hope for that, but unfortunately, what we hope for isn’t always the reality. Often, hope and reality are not the same, and sometimes, they are completely opposite.

Yes, there are times when, no matter how much we hope someone will love us, we simply can’t feel any affection or care from the other person.

Not Feeling Loved Is Actually Not Being Loved

When we don’t love someone, we’re usually very clear-minded and can see who is sincere and who is just pretending to love us.

But once we fall for someone, even the most rational person can seem foolish. Even if we can’t feel the other person’s love, we keep finding excuses and lying to ourselves.

Instead of believing that the other person doesn’t love us, we prefer to tell ourselves that the other person is just shy and doesn’t know how to express their feelings, or that they are preparing some surprises for us and are just unsure how to do it.

We make all kinds of excuses for the other person, forgetting that our own feelings are always the most genuine.

Yes, when we never feel the other person’s affection and care, we really shouldn’t assume that they love us but just don’t show it. Love and lack of love, whether it’s our feelings for someone or someone’s feelings for us, are always very apparent. When we never feel someone’s care and concern, there’s no other reason — that person simply doesn’t love us.

Make Adjustments and Try Again

Not feeling loved usually falls into two situations. It could be that we haven’t been together, but we really like the other person. In this case, we can try a bit harder to be noticed by the other person and see if they are willing to be with us.

In many cases, if someone doesn’t treat us well, it’s because they don’t love us. But sometimes, the other person hasn’t had the chance to see our good side and understand who we are.

If we are already in a relationship and we can’t feel loved by the other person, whether we never felt it or felt it initially but not anymore, we can make some changes and see the other person’s reaction.

When two people are together, trying to change the other person is very difficult and unrealistic. If we want to change the relationship, it’s more effective to change ourselves first.

It’s a shame to easily give up on someone we like. Since we don’t want to give up, we should make an effort.

If You Truly Can’t Feel Loved, Learn to Withdraw Your Love

In relationships, some people, no matter how much we give, seem indifferent.

We’ve never felt warmth from that person, and we can’t see any future with them.

When we’re with someone, we only feel pain and no happiness. In such a case, there’s no need to keep loving that person or try hard to move them.

There are always some people we can’t have or move. For such people, when we’ve done enough, we don’t need to persist further.

In love, when the love is one-sided and causes pain, we have to learn to turn away.

Loving someone is not about only loving one person for a lifetime. Before finding the right person to accompany us, we may make some mistakes and love the wrong people. When this happens, we need to learn to forgive ourselves and start over.

When you truly can’t feel loved, the more you love, the harder it gets.

Some people might say that loving someone is never easy and is always hard work.

However, we also need to understand that while good love can be hard at times, it mostly brings happiness.

If love is too hard, then either the method or the person isn’t right.

In life, we need to keep learning how to love someone. At the same time, we should never be fixated on someone who doesn’t love us or make us feel unappreciated.

Relationships involve two people, so we need to learn to compromise and find someone who reciprocates our feelings.