Dating

When Women Say They Don’t Like Dating Broke Men, This Is What They Mean

Hint: It’s not about money.

Here’s a question for the fellas: when you hear women talk about not wanting to date broke guys, what immediately comes to mind?

If you are like me, you probably think being broke means not having a fat bank balance that allows you to spare no expense when it comes to treating a love interest or a current romantic partner.

While this commonly believed notion of brokenness might be true for a small subset of women, for most, it’s nothing like that.

The disparity in how women view brokenness in men versus how men view brokenness in themselves is partly fueled by how men perceive their value. We think women want a rich man because we have been conditioned to equate wealth with desirability.

Recently, I stumbled upon a short, obscure video on Instagram that unpacked the concept of being broke in a way I had never seen before, and it propelled me to write this piece. The reel is by a lady who goes by the handle @longlive_sincere. I have placed a link here.

Essentially, what @longlive_sincere says is:

A broke man, for most women, is not about not having money per se; rather, it’s about the mentality.

Being broke would be complaining about not having money, and instead of going out to find work, you’d much rather sit at home playing video games all day. It would be expecting your woman to take care of you while you do nothing for her in return or believing everything is hard to get, so you resort to never trying.

Fundamentally, broke men prioritize short-term comfort over long-term benefits and embody the mentality of laziness.

This idea of what it means to be broke makes perfect sense to me; it reflects a good portion of how dating was in my twenties. For most of it, I was as penniless as a church mouse, and yet, I managed to date more women than when I finally started to make some money.

The one thing I did have was the motivation to better my life. I was always looking for ways to earn a little extra here and there. Often, I would fail, but that never deterred me. I made sure to brush myself off and try again. The women in my life saw this, and I’m certain it’s part of the reason they were attracted to me, even though they often earned far more than me at the time. What they saw in me was ambition.

No money, no problem, date anyway

Some men are doing themselves a disservice by eliminating themselves from the dating pool all because they feel they have nothing to offer financially.

I’m here to tell these men that most women couldn’t care less, so long you have a strong sense of purpose and direction, then it’s all peachy. Women love a man who is actively working towards achieving his future goals.

This is one of the few cases where I believe the following saying fits perfectly, as cliché as it might sound:

Money can’t buy love.

So don’t be discouraged when you hear women say they don’t want to date broke men.