When the success of another makes your heart sing
There’s a 15 minute “Financial abundance” video by Abraham Hicks that I like. Part of the video narration mentions:
When the success of another makes your heart sing, your resistance is gone and your own success soars.
Well, I love this and will add it to my own mantras that I use, for example, when I go to bed I say to myself “Happy, Healthy, Wealthy and Wise.”
Now you may not like Abraham Hicks or you may think affirmations don’t do much unless you’ve had other core work or you have shed away layers that have hindered your natural progress or growth, or something else.
Well, I try to look at and interact with something on its own terms. Every person needs to take on what resonates positively with her or him, and with my love for data or information, I like to take what I can from everything and to “sew the seams” together (or put things together) too.
There may be more than “meets the eye” when we look at something, similarly for what we listen to, etc. Some videos have sounds to a certain beat, such as diurnal beats and other things, which are aimed to help us physiologically and psychologically, and this if fine if you want to try this or have tried it and find this helpful to you.
The crunch is that what is comfortable or useful or “right” is perhaps in the eye of the beholder, or in the ear of the listener. What’s good for the goose is not always good for the gander. For example, if you don’t like subliminal methods, or other methods, stay away from them.
If you discount who authored the video (posted at the end of this Story) if you don’t like or if you are wary of Abraham Hicks, and just assess it as a video message with a purpose and with elements making a whole, there may be parts that you really like or which are useful to you.
This approach of stripping something away to see what’s in it for you, or what connects you to it, applies to people too.
“Don’t judge a book by its cover”
Throughout my life I have tried to really understand and to connect with and include people, and to look beyond the superficial.
I think that my humility together with my loving that there are inter-relationships and connections between everything, has helped me to look at a person as layers.
There is simplicity within complexity, in other words all comes from sub-atomic energy so we are all made from the same stuff (have the same potential).
Human beings or Homo sapiens have the same physiological form and same psychological and spiritual needs, and there are many “roads” to getting these met.
One can take time to try to see where another person is coming from or to understand what they do or why they do, by looking at the components or elements making up that person’s experiences, and by understanding that one has “human-ness” or humanity (similar feelings, wants and needs, and even pathways) in common with that person.
“Don’t leap in where fools fear to tread.”
When meeting or coming across someone new, I maintain a respectful distance, necessary for me to find out what a person’s background is (or may be, given lack of direct information and my own research).
On one hand, I will clap a Story on Medium that I like, without putting on my detective’s outfit and scrutinizing the writer with a microscope first.
However I am careful with my responses and notes, and we all learn from reactions to our responses on the internet and off-line.
For example, I wrote a private note to a Medium writer telling them that a word they used was incorrect, and that writer got pretty upset.
The writer let loose what seemed to be “a lecture” (a passionate long note) essentially saying that posts on Medium are not writings in top publications and neither are Medium writers in a High school ready to be corrected for everything.
Well, I was a bit upset by this reaction, especially because similar had happened before, in a situation where I thought I was helping someone with a long post on a forum, the post of which had plenty of spelling and grammar mistakes.
I only wanted the result of the writing by that writer getting more attention very possibly, because I thought that some people wouldn’t read it due to all of its obvious mistakes.
“Once bitten, twice shy”
Now the memo from Celine to Celine has got through. Don’t come across as preaching. Another of my favorite mantras is “The teacher and the taught together create the teaching.”
So perhaps next time I could send a writer a note saying “Hi, I loved your Story, and am just wondering if you would like feedback on some spelling in your Story?” That may be less of a cannon shot for the writer and for me!
We live and learn, if we are open to learning.
Life is a challenge and full of learning curves, twists and sub-plots, and roller coaster rides.
I think that those of us whom have gone along rocky roads and personally faced real challenges or difficulties, whom view these as opportunities to change ourselves, in order to live happy and fulfilled lives, as part of a web of humankind and of Life on Earth, and of the Cosmos itself, are successful.
I am grateful for my inner resources which have kept me going, and for the support from people and systems that I have received. Every day I count my lucky stars.
Successful people, to me, are those who persevere in the face of hardship or difficulties. They are also people who have goals, even if they are everyday goals, and who reach for those goals, while lifting up and having understanding and compassion for others.
Lately I’ve read some Stories on Medium about people being either for or against Medium, and I find this a microcosm of the macrocosm. Maybe Medium is now promoting different genres or categories of writers than it used to years ago, and is becoming more money oriented, but as I’ve posted before, writers can move to other avenues if they really don’t like Medium.
Nobody is perfect, and basic interaction between people commands RESPECT
If Medium won’t offer exactly what you want, there’s no need to keep bashing a heap of rocks.
Jealousy or envy is an energy that not only drains your energy from being used for productive things, but sets up barriers and makes you focus on what you don’t want or like, rather than on what you want.
If I could pick one nonconstructive emotion of human beings that is a stand-out, it would be the green-eyed monster, JEALOUSY.
Sadly, where there’s a large collection of diversified human beings, there is usually a stratification of overtly (or widely known) “successful” people and of those who feel they are competing with them and who want to squash their competitors, or rail-road them into changing sides.
If being successful on Medium means making money from the Partnership program, then go for it, I say. Don’t forget the layers and NOT taking things superficially.
Writers (like Shannon Ashley )are not writing solely and selfishly for an income stream (a dubious notion in itself) but because they LOVE writing and sharing their experiences and wisdom.
Stomping on someone’s dreams or beliefs elevates the person with the boot ….for a little while, but the effect is temporary, and the “feeling better about myself” result of the stomper is based upon illusions, so this action only stops them from growing spiritually.
I am successful on Medium because I am attaining my personal goal, that of writing for at least a few people to find and read and enjoy or use what I write.
The point of all this is that I love to celebrate the successes of writers on Medium and others. Yes, the success in their own positive terms, of others, makes my heart sing.
When the success of another makes your heart sing, your resistance is gone and your own success soars.
Maybe along my own journey, I have seen and come across successful people where it counts for me, and have let their experience and wisdom take wings and bear me aloft the arrow of time in the direction of a happy and fulfilled life for me personally.
This may be where and why my “resistance to live” (based upon my traumatic childhood and earlier years) vanished, and my “success” soared.
I believe that if one truly is happy for another person’s growth and success (where it doesn’t aim to diminish or conquer things) that one’s success at everything will soar.