When The Fat Friend Becomes The Thin Threat

No, I Am Not Going To Steal Your Husband.

I’ve written about my weight loss before and how losing half of myself changed me. Well, there is another aspect of weight loss that I don’t think is talked about enough.

YOUR weight loss will change those around you.

Yes, that’s right, it will change things greatly.

I literally have lost half of myself and maintained over a period of 1650 days according to my weight tracking app.

In the early days the compliments were lovely “you look great”, “ well done you”. I accepted comments graciously and moved the subject onto something else. This was my weight loss journey and I intended to keep it that way. I was shedding the fat for me and my health and didn’t need validation from others.

More and more weight came off. And then it started “you’re looking a bit drawn”, “are you still losing, you should stop”. Well, I have stopped actually. I eat to a calorie limit and maintain my weight now and on many days I’m a vegetarian.

But with the weight loss has come a new threat. And that threat is me. I might say that I haven’t lost any women friends through my weight loss but with one or two there has certainly been a distancing and I know it is due to my weight loss. My loss of fat does not mean I’m going to gain your husband. I’ve got far too much going on which I like doing and quite frankly I’m not interested in your husband.

I did my weight loss process on my own and didn’t go to any classes at all. What I do think, however, is that in these classes a mention should be made by the weight loss advisers about how your weight loss will change those around you. Because it will without a doubt. I’m sure for the majority of big weight losers all will be good but unfortunately for some partners of dieters jealousy will creep in. Fear of the relationship crumbling. Worry of the newly thin scurrying off into the arms of another as fast as their new shapely little legs can carry them. When your reliable fat friend becomes your thin threatening enemy and could tempt your husband. All this needs talking about and working through.

So I’d say to anyone who is on this journey keep ongoing. Ignore the doom-mongers. You’re losing weight for yourself and your health but keep in mind that your change in shape may bring a change in relationships. Most of it I’m sure will be good but for some, it may not be so good.

And if people can’t support you in making positive life changes do you really need those people in your life?

I don’t and neither do you.