When sexual thoughts hit you
You are not that type of guy who is addicted to porn. You want to respect women for who they are. You don’t want to see their bodies. Yet, you are a man with needs. That’s how God designed you.
You don’t want to stare at a woman who is minding her own business on the subway. Yet, you are mesmerized by her beauty. You try to avoid continuous eye contact because you don’t want to make her uncomfortable. But, you have needs! And you’re single! You want to talk to her, you want to say something.
You say to yourself, “I’m just not ready to be in a relationship.”
“I do not have a stable career.”
“I’m not a doctor or an engineer or working for a corporate company making six-figures.”
You want to do the right thing. You want to make it halal. You want to approach a woman with dignity, to see if she’s compatible. Yet, you fail for some reason.
“She’s not the same religion as me.”
“She doesn’t have the same ethnic background as me.”
In all of these circumstances, you have no choice but to turn to the internet to satisfy your desires. No matter how inappropriate it is, you just cannot help it. You end up watching sexual content on the internet to satisfy your desires. Sometimes, it gets too much it affects your days.
Sexual thoughts hit you like a new challenge in my opinion. Whether you want to suppress it or satisfy it, your body has needs that need to be fulfilled. The most halal way is to find a spouse and have sex. Other haram or inappropriate ways include having premarital sex to watching sexual content on the internet.
In this day and age where it’s easy to satisfy your desires through the internet, it is difficult to find the best mate and get married to have a life with a companion. Sex has become a commodity. People’s bodies, more specifically women’s bodies are sold for lust and money. Marriage rates are declining, divorce rates are rising, casual sex and one night stands are at a rise. The ‘red pill blue pill’ and men vs women debates are all over the internet.
Where are we as a humanity?
It is interesting as history tells us, only the rich and powerful had access to many women. Even today, Instagram models flock to Dubai to sell their bodies to the elites. However, if an ordinary person wants to see a naked person, he/she can access it through the internet.
The sad reality is that many people are uncomfortable to discuss this in front of their close-knit communities. Therapy is a good option as it provides a third-party opinion.
One thing is certain, in this age where sexualized content is easily accessible, steps need to be taken to curb the mental health problems people are having because of it. Sex education and therapy are some ways. Censorship of bodies is also an option. It is subjective but we should talk about it. I’m not saying all women should wear abayas. Modesty should be promoted for both women and men.
Let me know how you guys feel in the comments.
