CUTTING YOUR LOSSES RELATIONALLY
When People Connected to You Could Care Less
You’ve got to care enough to shake it off to preserve your well-being
Whether it’s a relative, friend, coworker, social media follower, neighbor, or acquaintance, we are all influenced by human connections. No matter what type of relationship we have with others, positive and affirming interactions mean a lot.
Even though thoughtful, respectful, cordial, and accepting encounters with people who engage with us either casually, intimately, or professionally reflect our interactive preference, that’s not always the case.
Sometimes the verbal and nonverbal cues that people communicate, even those that we love and are quite fond of, will let us know how they feel about us. And the message that is received may not be an encouraging one. On the contrary.
With this discovery comes the realization that colleagues, family members, and others you hold in high regard have a very low tolerance for you. Not only don’t they like you, but their feelings for you are beyond description.
Difficulty surrounds you as your reality becomes crystal clear. And sadness becomes your initial recourse. While you try to repair the relationship, you become even more devastated because your sincere efforts fail to work. Sadly, you just can’t figure out what went wrong. But, just as the Greek poet Menander said around 300 B.C.
“Time is the healer of all necessary evils”,
the passage of time will help you heal from your relational disappointment. Eventually, you will be able to let go of your anguish because you know that trying to figure out your relational demise has been useless.
Five Ways to Cut Your Losses
Instead of continuing to embrace all the questions about why the relationship failed, you know that you must preserve your peace of mind and sanity. So you decide to shake the sadness off so that you can make progress in life.
Here are the five ways you do it.
- Forgive any person who has offended you. When you forgive, you receive a refreshing level of freedom that comes from releasing the debilitating burden of unforgiveness.
- Your most powerful response is to keep it moving. Continue on your unique path and live your life. Allow confidence to enlighten you along your journey.
- Stop looking back. Realize that rehearsing and reliving your backstory keeps you entangled in the heartaches and frustrations of yesterday. Maintain a forward gaze.
- Stay focused on the vision you have established for yourself. Embrace the perfect plan God has for your life.
- Celebrate the positive and purpose-filled direction your life is moving in. This is your redemption.
The Final Thought
As you strive to live a happy and stress-free life, these five strategies for cutting your losses enable you to approach every day through new lenses.
Here is my golden ticket that helps me accomplish my mission.
Dr. Deborah M. Vereen is a retired Teacher and School Administrator. Her website is www.Drdeborahmvereen.com and her YouTube Channel is
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