When Broken is a Thing of Comfort and Beauty

I studied with some of the finest mediums I could find during the pandemic. They are the best because I’ve gone to them myself as a sitter.

I’ve always gone to mediums, never thinking that within two short years, I would read upwards of twenty people a week from all over the world.

After I finished one of the classes, my sons ambushed me on their podcast and had people call in to see if the lessons worked. Did I learn to read the signs and symbols in my head, or was it all a crock?

To our surprise, it did, and soon a website was set up; I was getting referrals, and I even had a few regulars.

My kids bought me one square inch of property in Scotland that proclaimed me a ‘Lady.’ My daughter-in-law suggested we use the name Lady Phyllis as my mediumship identity. I used two other pen names when writing, so that appealed to me.

I advertised on Facebook and Tik Tok, creating content in the hope it would demystify mediumship and explain it to those people who don’t know anything about it. I thought my posts were informative and tried to make them interesting.

I grew dismayed by the responses coming in.

“Will my boyfriend come back?” “Does He love me?” “Does he have a girlfriend?” “Is so and so cheating on me?” “When will I have a baby?”

This was not mediumship. I don’t do those kinds of questions. I went to mediums to hear messages from my parents and later from my husband when he passed. It was a chance to hear that they were around to see what was happening. I enjoyed knowing they saw our celebrations, acknowledged hardships, and were present in our lives. It made me feel better. It made me feel whole.

Mediumship is about validation, evidence, and healing. A good medium will tell you something no one else could know, proving they are communicating with your loved one. Mediumship is about comfort and closure, that final message that the survivors need to hear. The messages are alike, even when circumstances are different. Spirit often says they are sorry, did the wrong thing, or understand the issues now and realize true intentions. Hearing these messages can change perspectives and hopefully heal those left broken.

Mediumship is another form of Kintsugi, the Japanese art of gluing together broken pottery with gold. The intention is to create a stronger, more beautiful piece of art. It’s about embracing the changes to see beauty in the flaws and imperfections.

Mediums put back the pieces of a broken heart with messages instead of glue. I’m hoping that the words of comfort, the small bits of evidence that I bring to a reading, make people whole and stronger than before.

You can learn more about my journey with mediumship by following me on Facebook, Lady Phyllis Medium, my website Ladyphyllis.com, or even taking a class, starting June 15, 2023, Introduction to Mediumship.

What is the art of Kintsugi?

When a piece of pottery is broken, it is ‘glued’ together with gold. The Japanese use it as a lesson to teach that people won’t understand their full potential until they’ve gone through tough times.

Please pick up the pieces and assemble them when you are broken. Embrace both beauty and strength and know that it has made you better than before.