#Making Relationships Work
What’s Wrong With Living in a Consumption-Based Society?
We miss out on living, that’s what!

We are all floating on the same ocean these days my friends…
We’ve been living in this consumption-based society for a while now, and suddenly we’re all coming down with… a form of consumption.
Oh hey there, Coronavirus-19… What’s up?
Did it ever occur to you that we weren’t sent here to worry about a bunch of people-made stuff, ideas, and money? That we didn’t evolve here on earth to become a bunch of stressed-out, sick, unhappy monkeys?
Did you ever have the thought that maybe life would be better if it were a little simpler? If we had more real friends, more time to enjoy them? Less debt? More laughter and less yelling? More deep breaths? Less sleepless nights?
What do you mean there’s no more toilet paper? You mean there’s a better way to clean our butts than by cutting down trees turning it into white paper and then flushing it down the toilet into the sewer system that drains into the bay? Why didn’t somebody TELL me?
Hmmm…
Think it’s strange?
Yeah, me too.
I think we’ve been put on by the story of progress. I think they might have been lying.
The ocean is not feeling well, don’t you agree?
If you have managed to let the fear of the current health crisis indeed pass over us and through you, and you have emerged on the other side, you are quite likely bobbing about in this curious ocean of awareness, wondering and thinking things to yourself like this…
- How did I get here?
- Why am I all of a sudden so still?
- Wow, the sky above me is incredibly beautiful.
- The soil feels so good on my hands.
- Why don’t I talk with my friends and family more?
- How was I not paying better attention to the incredible riches all around me before now?
- Oh wait, I was… sitting at a desk, staring at a machine, making money to pay for the things that were supposed to make my life… better?
- Huh?
- Wait a second…
What have I been doing with all of my time and all of my energy all of my life? And for goodness sake, why?
Wow, the planet is really talking to us right now.
She speaks in the voice of COVID-19, to let us know that our mother earth is not well. She has whispered in our ears for many years now, in the form of hurricanes, droughts, desertification, illness of the water, and illness of the land. She has languished in our careless disregard. And now she is SHOUTING. She CRIES OUT to be heard. She has been forced into threatening our human lives, and we are finally starting to pay attention.
Whoa. It’s almost like the planet was…

Alive!
No way.
Seriously?
Like how all the elders of all the traditions that stretch far back in time before the advent of “civilization” have been trying to tell us for many, many years now?
Like any meaningful thing ever learned on any psychedelic trip by any human in any era.
The big T.R.U.T.H.
You mean… we are all one?
As above, so below?
We all come from the Goddess?
Love your neighbor as yourself?
Protect our mother earth and she will give us a good place to live?
We once lived in Eden?
Namaste?
Assalam’u’alaikum?
Whoa. Really? Dude…
No shit?!?

Why is the water so dirty?
I shouldn’t have to own a Berkey.
A $400 gadget to extract the poisons and chemicals from the water that flows into my home from the “city water system.”
I should know where my water comes from.
I should know where my water goes to.
I should know the deep cycles of the water as they fall from sky to earth, then rise and flow from earth back into the sea.
I should know the way the water in my body is affected by the water from the world around me, but… I should also know that whatever I do with the water in my body also affects the world.
It should not be a privilege to have access to clean water.
We need to stop making mother earth so ill with our mindless, childish, egotistical blunders.
It is time for us to come of age.
We are not dummies, we humans, no. We are born of the dream and imagination of our mother earth and father mind.
So let us find our way back to good clean water.
Regardless of whatever they say on the radio about the economy, we’ve been broke for a good long time now. Spiritually speaking. We’ve been lost. We have been wandering in the desert for a while now. And it’s going to get worse if it doesn’t get better. And it’s up to us to choose which way we are going to go…
Are you in yet? Or are you still interested in this old malarky? The old story of separation as my friend Charles puts it…
Top 5 Economic Indicators To Track
Inflation — Inflation measures the cost of goods and services.
Employment — People with jobs can spend and invest.
Housing — In a land of increasing house prices, banks lend and the economy booms.
Spending — We live in a consumption-based society.
Confidence — Although it is elusive, confidence drives everything.
From Stocktrader.com

Me. Not so much.
I believe in the story of interbeing.
“We are on the cusp of a global shift from the quantitative to the qualitative. Sustained commitment to the possibility of health and better well-being will convert it into actuality. “— from Charles Eisenstein, Climate A New Story
I believe in the idea of participation, not domination. Darn, that would make a good bumper sticker, wouldn’t it? Open source baby. Do it if you love it.
I believe in people being allowed to live their one precious lifetimes on earth celebrating and exploring their gifts, rather than drowning under the responsibilities of adulting.
I believe that young people without much of an economic prospect should be allowed to find employment, service, and adventure in participating in the regenerative agriculture and industries of the EcoCorps, instead of being forced into the military to earn a living. Oh, you mean it would help them participate in healing climate change? No way.
Why should you have to arm yourself and fight in imaginary wars that hurt others and protect wealth for the wealthiest? While mother earth languishes further and further into decline?
No thanks.
When will we learn to apply Jimi Hendrix’s prescient quote?
“When the power of love overcomes the love of power, then we will know peace?”
It’s time to wake up.
It’s time to get off the consumption kick — whatever your consumption of choice might happen to be. Time to put down the video-game controllers, and stop relying on a drink or a toke to make the pain and overwhelm of the “real” world stay at a distance. Drugs can be great when they’re used to celebrate or transform our existence. Habitual abuse of them though — that’s not the way they are best used. It’s time to start paying attention.
It’s time to stop self-flagellating ourselves with all of our naval gazing, self-judgment, and overinflated and over-coddled fears. Time to grow up.
We have work to do. And no, that work doesn’t have to involve consumption. We must find a better way forward. We must learn to be in a healthy relationship with ourselves, our people, and our planet. And there’s a lot to learn to give any of this regeneration stuff a chance to work, so…
I’ve just awakened myself, and you know what, it’s a beautiful day. Let’s go live it.
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Kaia Tingley is a writer, artist, podcaster, digital strategy nerd, and sometimes hot-tempered supernova with a wild, free soul. You can find her on Instagram here or on LinkedIn here.






