What’s The Best Advice You Ever Gave To Someone?

“What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.” ― Maya Angelou

“If a man will begin with certainties, he shall end in doubts; but if he will be content to begin with doubts, he shall end in certainties.” ― Francis Bacon

Well, to be honest, I used to advise my friends, and they treated me as an insane creature. After discarding them from my life, I realized the biggest friend I ever had was me.

So, now, I advise myself.

I tell myself to be myself no matter what. I question myself a lot of things like ‘Am I doing well’, ‘Is there something that needs to be fixed’, ‘What is it that I don’t like and need to change about myself and what is it that I like the most and should keep on continuing doing that’.

This kind of self-introspection talk has helped me a lot in realizing who I am. Social media stupid posts or people with low IQ levels can never be my people. I live my life authentically and luckily; I am not the only one. I have met many by now who are my role models and trust me I haven’t even written posts about them yet. But I worship them, and these women have made me realize what it means to be a strong woman and say no to all the pretentious things in life.

I was told to become a coward so recently I read an article that taught me to do the opposite. But when I started doing the opposite of it at that time I wasn’t writing in real except in my head. Now I am writing and can say that not even writing block was good enough a reason to block my writing routine.

I was writing earlier in my head all the time; at all the places I was going to and in the people, I was meeting and greeting. Even while sitting in the police station alone to file for the First Investigation Report against my ex-husband who has married off recently and showing off his life as he is being with a woman for the first time. How did I get to know? Well, his moron wife was following my Instagram account. What kind of pitiful creatures even God must be laughing at their existence in this world?

The best advice came from God as well who told me to become who I always meant to be. So, I asked God in return, okay, I will become that but how do you make sure I won’t be hurt for being who I am. And to this God smiled and said, ‘Who told you that life is going to be an easier journey for you when it wasn’t for me’. I just nodded in affirmation and never dared to ask another selfish question.

Look within yourself and sit with yourself. Spend time with yourself to know who you are and what it is that you want. Do you really think certain social media acceptance will get you to the place where you wanted to go? I don’t think so.

Stop wasting your time living the life society has told you to do and live the life God has always wanted out of you. When we stop serving God and don’t walk on the path designated by him for us, we lose focus and hope.

I am not sure which human being would you like to be but from the place where I can see myself all I can say is that now I am living the life I always wanted to live. I am blessed to be at the place I am. There is no hurry and acceptance of things the way they are unfolding in my life.

Are you at the same place too? Are you?

“A wise man gets more use from his enemies than a fool from his friends.” ― Baltasar Gracian

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Gurpreet Dhariwal is the author of Three books. Her books are available on Amazon, Flipkart, and BlueRose. Connect with Gurpreet at www.gurpreetdhariwal.com