What Would You Write if You Weren’t Being Judged?
How to write as if no one was looking.
Last night, I had a proud moment when my daughter said she turned in her short story assignment for her English class. She said the project was to write a short story that was at least half-a-page long. She crushed it! Her story was eleven pages.
My daughter is great. She loves to read, and she loves to write. However, I recognize her one setback: she doesn’t want to share her work. I’ve been there. I’m empathetic to the feelings of judgment, doubt, and fear.
I love acronyms, and I have one that may help. F.A.I.T.H. More on that below. But the most significant help I find is asking the question, “What would I write if no one was judging me?” If it weren’t for page views and claps, what words would I happily type out?
As promised, here’s the F.A.I.T.H. acronym for writing as if nobody was watching:
F — Face the fear
Fear is the lowest vibrational energy and is the anchor of a bountiful life. One of life’s paradoxes is: the more you run from a fear, the more that fear builds. Ripping the proverbial bandage off has its advantages. Face a fear daily, and you will see results. I like this quote:
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ — Eleanor Roosevelt
A — Accept yourself
Next obstacle: love yourself. Two things here:
- No one will love you more than you love yourself.
- You can’t love anyone else more than you love yourself.
Sometimes you have to keep going without looking around. Do what you do, and be happy in how you are doing it. You may have imperfections, but you are perfect — as is.
I — Inspiration to others
This thought brings up another paradox. The more you give to others, the more you gain. This universal law is valid for most anything: money, love, encouragement, etc. That’s why I love this Medium community. The more I praise and compliment others, the more I feel worthy of myself.
There’s a trick, though. If you expect something in return, it won’t come. I’m not talking about leaving comments and following other people, hoping you will get the same return. No. Your intentions will backfire. However, when you genuinely invest in other people’s success, your energy has a habit of returning broadly.
T — Thankful for what you have to say
Your life is uniquely yours. Just because you don’t have a Ph.d. or an MD behind your name doesn’t mean that you can’t educate and heal. You’ve had experiences that other people have not. Good, bad, and ugly (and God knows there are ugly experiences), be thankful for those experiences.
H — Happy to share
And that’s where we come to sharing. I don’t know about your life, but I’m sure I can learn something from it. We are in this human experience together. Together, we can grow.
You are a whole individual, worthy of your love. It may not be pretty, but it is all yours. Own it. Share it. Love it.
Ryan DeJonghe is the owner of YourEnergyHealers.Org, an online collaborative of energy and Reiki healers offering services over video. Ryan is also the author of Energy Healing 101, releasing January 2021.
