What Women Want

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eration Xers watched the baby boomers racing to the alter, from the view of their grandmothers glorified picture albums. Most of the Gen Xers went off to public school and some of their mothers went to work. The Gen Xers have now grown up and have families of their own, send their kids off to public school and then most of them go to work. In my opinion you now have millennials who have not raised themselves, as some have said, but were raised by television and media. The sources influencing children were no longer monitored by parents in general. Therefore the consequences of this culture change, caused children to grow up having to fill their own needs, which in turn conditioned them to focus on themselves first and not other people.</p><p id="bf4f">There are other countries in which the women are not allowed to pursue careers, their roles as wives and mothers are very defined. Maybe they are happy, or maybe they just don’t know what they are missing. Just something to think about. Those of us in America that have had the opportunity to pursue and obtain formal education have a sense of freedom that many women all over the world can only attempt to imagine.</p><p id="c4aa">I propose that our sense of freedom is only an illusion in some ways, that we are not happy because we are trying to cary too much responsibility all by ourselves. A 2019 US Bureau of Labor statistics report indicates that on an average day in 2018 only 20% of men did any housework in comparison to nearly 50% of women. This is a strong indication that in many cases, women still tend to pull more weight concerning domestic responsibilities.</p><p id="4f87">There are so many facets to this issue that there is not time nor room to cover all of them here. There is our ever changing economy that has caused stress on couples. There is the social pressure that has caused us all to think we need things that are not really fulfilling any need, only feeding our vanity. There is also the men’s view, needs and wants. And a society that has systematically broken down the family unit.</p><p id="e085">But, to keep it simple, women need and want to feel protected, to feel heard (effective communication), and to feel loved, generally women associate affection, and positive attention with feeling loved. And last of all women want to feel like they are a respected and recognized part of the team we call family.</p><p id="e1d0">This is the first work that I have submitted on Medium. Thank you for reading.</p><p id="2318"><i>By clicking my link

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What Women Want

The Three Important W’s

The phrase ‘what women want’ sounds so simple. But, what do women really want? One would think that they can come up with the answer right off the top of their head, right? But, here in America, our particular society is a melting pot of so many different cultures that it changes the equation. And then you add in the internet that connects us to literally every culture on earth, and there you have it, a big confusing mess. We have access to see how literally everyone in the world is living, and we want the best of all of it. And we intend to have it. Is that really a bad thing? Isn’t it good to want to better yourself, strive for more, be all you can be and all that?

The women of our time, and in this society are strong, we maneuver through life like queens, that think we know what we want. Yes, I’m one of them. The sure, the proud, the independent women of today, that’s us. Sounds great, except that we are lonely, and we are sad, and feel like most of the responsibility in the home is on us, the proverbial ‘we’ that is. We have had to become extra strong to drown out the quiet sorrows inspired in us from childhood. We distract ourselves with the latest fashion, the latest drama going on in Hollywood, or the latest tricks and tips for doing our make-up. That is, when we have time for any sort of distraction that we fit in between balancing a full or part time job, caring for children, grocery shopping, preparing meals and fulfilling all of the other household duties that in many relationships is still considered to be the woman’s sole responsibility. Carrying so many different responsibilities is how we became so strong.

Why did we become unhappy in our roles as wives and mothers? Not, necessarily unhappy, but burnt out and looking for a reprieve. Did we stop being what men wanted and they divorced us? Or did the men stop being what we wanted or needed and we divorced them? The answer is, we divorced them in the majority of cases. A study led by the American Sociological Association determined that nearly 70% of divorces are initiated by women. And the percentage of college-educated American women who initiated divorce is even higher.

Envision with me for a moment, the Generation Xers watched the baby boomers racing to the alter, from the view of their grandmothers glorified picture albums. Most of the Gen Xers went off to public school and some of their mothers went to work. The Gen Xers have now grown up and have families of their own, send their kids off to public school and then most of them go to work. In my opinion you now have millennials who have not raised themselves, as some have said, but were raised by television and media. The sources influencing children were no longer monitored by parents in general. Therefore the consequences of this culture change, caused children to grow up having to fill their own needs, which in turn conditioned them to focus on themselves first and not other people.

There are other countries in which the women are not allowed to pursue careers, their roles as wives and mothers are very defined. Maybe they are happy, or maybe they just don’t know what they are missing. Just something to think about. Those of us in America that have had the opportunity to pursue and obtain formal education have a sense of freedom that many women all over the world can only attempt to imagine.

I propose that our sense of freedom is only an illusion in some ways, that we are not happy because we are trying to cary too much responsibility all by ourselves. A 2019 US Bureau of Labor statistics report indicates that on an average day in 2018 only 20% of men did any housework in comparison to nearly 50% of women. This is a strong indication that in many cases, women still tend to pull more weight concerning domestic responsibilities.

There are so many facets to this issue that there is not time nor room to cover all of them here. There is our ever changing economy that has caused stress on couples. There is the social pressure that has caused us all to think we need things that are not really fulfilling any need, only feeding our vanity. There is also the men’s view, needs and wants. And a society that has systematically broken down the family unit.

But, to keep it simple, women need and want to feel protected, to feel heard (effective communication), and to feel loved, generally women associate affection, and positive attention with feeling loved. And last of all women want to feel like they are a respected and recognized part of the team we call family.

This is the first work that I have submitted on Medium. Thank you for reading.

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