What to Do, When You Want to Quit
Keep going.
I know its cliche but please, keep going. Ask for help. This is just a passing phase. It’s important to remember that the world is constantly in flux, and if you will just stick it out for a couple of months, or years, you will come out, and come out the other side. Things will get better for you. Hold onto whatever shred of hope you have, whether it be a family member, or a friend. Keep going.
Be sure to smell your cup of coffee this morning, or enjoy your sip of tea in the evening, taking in all the complex flavors. Feel the touch of love coming from a handshake, or a hug. Believe. You will get better.
And you are important and necessary. There is only one of you, and there will always only be one of you. Nobody dances quite like you, or sings with the same candor as yourself. Smile.
Smiling and laughter are tremendous if you can find an occasion for laugher through your pain. It reminds us of our common humanity. Smiling is wonderful, and it burns calories and releases endorphins. It’s in our best interest to smile…even if its fake at first, it can do wonders.
The hospital is a tremendous resource and place of healing for those in crisis. If you feel like your life is out of control consider signing yourself into hospital for healing. Sometimes we need medication. That’s ok. It will help.
I wouldn’t be here without all of the tremendous help I received both in the hospital and in outpatient groups. There are so many heartwarming nurses and doctors out there. Be sure to use them as resources. If you are active in search of help you will find it. It’s out there.
Some times depression and mental illness robs us of all our previous joys. If you still have something that brings you joy, by all means, do that. Play your guitar. Sing in the shower. Watch a romantic comedy.
Remember to be present. I know it’s the last place we want to be, but feel the covers protecting you while you watch tv, or in bed. Smell the candle you put on.
And trust me. Your life can and will get better. You have to weather the storm. Consider joining a group or exploring the love tucked inside every spiritual tradition. Remember to focus on the positive. I’m sure everyone who reads this is going through something so personal, but remember, and thank God, you are alive. You are important. So important.
Do one small act of kindness each day. A kind word, a small tip, a laugh with a friend. Life truly is beautiful. I hope you step into the beauty of the present moment. I write this as I fight through my own struggles. Having been hospitalized several times this year and coming out of the storm a better and stronger person.
Give your friend that hug. They probably need it too. Hugs are wonderful. So is life. Trust me, your life can get better. Believe.
I’m believing in myself, and in you too.