What the Experts Say on Finding the Love of Your Life
It is important to find your true self before finding your life partner
I was wrong about finding a life partner.
Below are a few snippets of what the experts say about love and soulmates.
In this podcast, Dr Joe Dispenza says somebody else can never complete us. We can never find love with a broken heart.
First, you need to become whole without needing somebody
When you complete yourself, you exude a vibe of liberation and radiance.
It helps to attract those people who are equally complete by themselves.
Then, two complete people create a perfect emotional harmony.
If any of you lack emotion and expect another person to fill that void, you begin the journey of the end.
Generating love within your heart creates a love magnetic field around you that attracts the love that you dream about
Dr Joe Dispensa said when you have love in your heart, your heart expands. It creates a field around you that signals the person you are.
When you have affection, self-love, and gratitude at heart, people of the same tribe start entering your circle.
If you have misery in your heart, you attract miserable people.
When you search for a life partner to fulfill some agenda of your life, it does not become true love.
I had thought that if and when I met my soulmate, I would ask a question-
Why do you want to be in love?
This question may sound stupid, but unknowingly, we enter into relationships to fulfill some agenda of our life like-
- Buying that dream house
- Having a partner for going on vacation
The doctor said true love does not need to fulfill any agenda.
Their presence will enhance the ecstasy of each other’s mind and heart.
When somebody makes you feel happy, you become a victim.
I have grown up witnessing this comment from my friends who have entered a relationship.
My partner makes me happy.
The doctor rightly said that when you give someone the authority to control your emotions(make you happy/sad), you become a victim to them.
If they can make you happy today, they can make you sad, too.
Emotional freedom is the biggest lesson I learned late in my life.
Mel Robbins suggested doing these three things before searching for love.
Learn to spend time in solitude
Discover more about yourself(about your likes and dislikes)
Learn a few hobbies(and what you can offer to the community)
One thing that unraveled in this podcast is that if you enter a relationship to avoid being lonely or single, you try to do any of these things-
- Try to mold yourself to impress your partner
- You cannot live without that person
- You become emotionally dependent on your partner
None of these help you to evolve.
The other person is bound to feel claustrophobic in that relationship.
Conclusion
Before you search for your life partner it is worth doing these things —
- Learn to know yourself by exploring different hobbies
- Respect your likes and dislikes
- Learn to be lonely
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