What Price Are You Willing To Pay?

I no longer clean up crap and neither should you.

People ask me all the time why I am single.

It is simple — I choose to be.

I am open to meeting a man who is a joy to be around, has his own life solidly aligned to love and who I feel a sense of compatibility with — until then I pay the price of being single.

I have been single most of my life with quite the cast of characters in between.

The one raging theme I noticed were people not wanting to embrace what they need to do in their lives to move forward and stay aligned to love.

I am no longer willing to spend my precious life force enduring, managing, clearing or navigating other people’s leftovers.

Nor am I anyone’s endless cheerleader.

I surround myself with people who feel like a calm uplifting breeze. I feel inspired and genuinely enjoy the sense of reciprocity.

If you look at your list of people who fit this description — perhaps it is small?

I love my tiny list.

I unknowingly used to allow my energy field to be infiltrated by others. I was allowing them to use my life force, light, clarity and connection. I had no idea it was hurting me.

I would be their wind beneath their wings, do all the clearing of their field for them and help them align to love. Then I didn’t have to be alone.

WOW.

Now that was one heck of a price to pay!

It took me many years to unwind this way of being in life. To figure out how this was happening, what I was getting out of this entanglement and to learn to set the energetic boundaries to make it stop.

How did I do that?

I STOPPED DOUBTING MYSELF.

I REALIZED MY ENERGY WAS SACRED AND MINE TO PROTECT.

I USE MY VOICE TO SPEAK MY TRUTH.

If I sense something that doesn’t feel like it’s aligned to love — I am done.

Period.

End of story.

I either walk away, stop talking with this person, set a boundary, or simply do not associate.

It is clear, swift, and kind.

I no longer over-explain, cajole or profusely encourage.

There is a young man that comes up to me each day at work with some story he wants to share. It is never because he is excited to tell ME about this story, nor does he care to ask me anything about myself or whether I have time to chat. He is there for one reason only and that is to feed off my energy field, get attention and unload whatever pain he is carrying in that moment he refuses to embrace.

While he may be aching for connection, the connection he must first master is with himself. And most often that requires us to know how to self-soothe and embrace our own needs.

He does this routine daily to anyone who will listen (do not worry he has a ton of support).

I am kind. I give to him about 10–20 seconds of a genuine heartfelt greeting and then I set my boundary to protect myself.

Why?

Because I respect my energy. Because takers are not allowed to endlessly take from my life force.

Because I know that nothing I say will ever get him to see what it is that he needs to see. He has to want to grow past the point in life he is currently experiencing.

Where are the blackhole people in your life that need, complain, beg, borrow and steal any good energy they can, all day long, so they can off-gass their pain?

“OH, BUT TINA YOU ARE SELFISH AND NOT COMPASSIONATE!”

Ha, ha, ha, ha.

I spent most of my life being drowned by people like this young man.

Slowly over time they eat you alive. They drain you of your life force. All the while you are shoveling the load they were given to walk through!

No thank you.

We are given the load we carry because it will make us grow. It is our karma. Our lessons. Whatever you prefer to call it.

It can feel unbearable. I do get this. Some people’s loads are infinitely larger than others. I understand it all feels unfair. But as I have dug myself out over time, I know this process has helped me become who I am today.

While many have walked along side of me showering me with compassionate strength it was me doing the work to heal.

What price are you paying each day so you aren’t alone?

I am not here to take on other people’s Karma and neither are you.

Those of us who are highly sensitive and intensely compassionate folks are here on Earth to learn the fine art of setting compassionate boundaries.

I call it compassionate strength.

Some people call it tough love.

I prefer compassionate strength because I receive the person with compassion and then dish out the strength.

No one gets to feed.

No one gets to drain us without our permission.

We do not have to pay this price to have people in our life.

Everyone on Earth is being given back their own load to carry.

We Light Workers are here to hold our center, shine like a lighthouse and keep our boundaries while love pours through.

The only price to pay here on Earth is the effort it takes to remain aligned so that love can flow.

Lay down your shovel.

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