What leads to growth in any relationship

Communication

In friendships →

A friendship is bound to grow and become long-term if you are vulnerable and have communication instead of hiding under the veil of small talks and secrecy.

We, humans, are wired to become vulnerable and comfortable if we understand the person with whom we are. That is when we can be vulnerable.

When we get to know that they do not have any weapons of judgment and hurtful comments and just bear beautiful no judgment I understand u bullshit.

That’s when friendship becomes chaddi dost — chaddi means underwear, closer friendship. You are as close to them as you are to your underwear.

Even in technology, vulnerabilities are good if detected or uncovered, by the correct people that is. If not, it leads to more issues. But if told to the correct person, it leads to growth.

Relationships →

It’s way harder to be vulnerable in a relationship because a lot more is at stake.

I think it is because a lot more emotions are involved and a lot more body as well.

I think to trust a person in a relationship, it is important to be friends with them first. It lets you know what kind of person they are.

It lets you understand their likes and dislikes.

It helps you give your mind the red or green signal on opening the wall of insecurities or vulnerabilities, and let them see the true you.

In relationships, I feel like being fully vulnerable all the time is also a problem, because a wall is important, but not all the time.

Sometimes the best way to open the wall is through a key I like to call communication.

Relationships are not complicated with this key.

In short-term relationships,

it’s way harder to be vulnerable, because you haven’t decided what you want from them, so you don’t know what part of your true self you want to tell them.

I feel in long-term relationships, it’s way easier to be vulnerable and truthful. It also becomes essential. I also feel like in long-term ones, flirting reduces to more sweetish talk or what I like to call truthful flirting.

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Truthful flirting is like flirting but with more truthfulness.

It’s acknowledging what they do not like about themselves, but telling them it’s okay to be that way while being a bit funny about it, cuz why not?

It’s like saying I like you, but I really like your butt cause it is shaped like a good day biscuit, but sometimes the shape of the Spotify icon.

There are better examples for sure.

When you say crazy shit and be weird, memories are made — Alon Musk, Nah Alok Hegde

I could say the key to any relationship is continuous rational judgment, but it’s way more fun to say it this way with the help of weird metaphors.

Relationships and friendships are not complicated if both of them work on it. Sometimes even when you communicate the problems don’t get solved.

At least you tried, and that’s more than enough most of the time.

Don’t waste your mental space and energy on things that aren’t your problem.

It’s not a you problem.

Thank you for reading till the end!