What Joking Is Meant For
I love to joke around. I love to be serious too when it’s needed. I also had lots of negativity in my life. Because of that, I didn’t like to joke anymore and I didn’t know how my jokes were received with people. I didn’t dare to joke anymore because I thought people were laughing at me all the time in a bad way. That they didn’t like my jokes anymore.
This makes me think if I was just joking to put my pain away. Or if I was joking around because I thought it helped me like a therapy session or just joking because I thought it was a nice joke, for just joking.
I didn’t know and I still don’t know the answer. To me, joking feels like just a joke, for fun. I also can imagine that other people can see it the other way.
Joke and pain
When I joked, people weren’t laughing about the jokes. I thought people weren’t laughing because of the joke, but because of me as a human being, that they don’t like me as a person and thus not joking as they didn’t like me. That people were laughing because I wore something stupid. So I stopped joking much more as I did before. I did it less and only with people I truly know they can appreciate it. And not with strangers anymore. It made me think.
But this made me thinking if I really should joke or if I was doing this because I felt pain.
Joking and situations
I can imagine when you feel the pain that you want to joke about a certain situation or things that happened to you. You don’t want to feel the pain you feel at that moment. The pain that caused your self-esteem a lot. You don’t believe in yourself anymore as others told you that you couldn’t do it what you wanted. You think maybe it isn’t worth that idea you were thinking about. When people tell you that often you are believing it yourself too. It could be possible that you joke about this but eventually, you want to pick up the idea and do it. So you think your jokes don’t matter anymore and not worth sharing.
Don’t want to joke because of the past
When I started to have the idea to write, people told me I can’t live from it, or that for my ideas were no public. And that people will not read my books or stories. I have seen that my stats on Medium are better and my earnings are much more than expected.
Now I write on Medium, started a newsletter service to promote my work and started writing my first book, I know it is not a living income yet, but I always believed they I can do this. But you have to start in the first place and not let your thoughts lead you by what others tell you to do (I have done this in the past too much).
Most people are jealous because you have a dream and they don’t. So they tell you that you can’t do it but actually they want to do what you do and dreaming of it and acting like an asshole towards you.
So, joking around can be a remedy if you are serious about your dreams, you know your character and thus who you are and you know it doesn’t hurt that much anymore. You envision your dream.
What does joking mean?
Joking means you don’t take life too seriously, but also seriously. You know what you want in your life and you know how to achieve that vision you have in your mind. Joking about your past means you can leave things behind but you still care that past with you. But you also take life and your things seriously. But you know how to lighten that seriousness with joking.
You know the balance and you have the balance of both.
Agnes Laurens is a writer. She writes for the local newspaper. Agnes lives in Bunnik, The Netherlands, with her husband and three daughters. Writing is — aside from playing the violin — one of her passions since childhood. She is on Twitter and Instagram.
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