What It Is Like to Date A Writer

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particularly one that is close to me, you will probably find yourself or a version of yourself reflected in my writing. And this fact has gotten me into trouble many times with those closest to me.Not Everyone Wants to Be a MuseYou have to come to terms with the fact that not everyone is dying to be your creative muse, and be used for all of your pieces. Not everyone likes having their likeness twisted and shaped to suit whatever story or article you are writing at the moment. Even if you are portraying a said person in an accurate, honest light they might not like you borrowing what feels like a piece of themselves to create your art. And that's ok. It is actually more than ok, and these feelings are completely valid. As a writer and artist, you have to learn how to respect that if you want to keep them in your life. Or at least ask them before you write them into your piece.I recently was reminded of this fact from a short creative warm-up I wrote one morning. I spent about 15 minutes writing a little story that featured my boyfriend. It captured him in a very accurate light for the first hal

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f, and then an unflattering and completely unrealistic light for the second. The second half was supposed to come off as humorous because of how exaggerated it was, but my boyfriend was upset by it. He did not like to see himself represented that way and we had a small spat about it.This made me realize that over the years as I took inspiration from all the people in my life I forgot to ask them if this was ok. I took their traits as humans and wrote them into my stories and made them do whatever would aid me the most in telling a good tale within these stories. During that process, I did not consider how this might make someone feel.Reflecting on this moving forward I think I need to be more conscious as a writer about what and who I am taking inspiration from, and whether or not this is ok. While writers will always take inspiration from the people we know, whether that is our boyfriend, parents, friends, or even someone we don’t know sitting across from us in the cafe, it might be a good idea for us to keep in mind the impact our writing might have on the person who’s likeness we are borrowing.</article></body>

Or be our friend, or be related to us, or hook up with us, or meet us for one second at a cafe

To know a writer is to also know what you will be writing about. Each writer has their own techniques when it comes to the craft, but one thing almost all of us have in common is that we take inspiration from the world around us, and this includes the people. To date a writer is a sure way to get written about, although not always in the most flattering light.

As a writer, I am always looking for inspiration for my next piece or the larger piece I am working on. Especially since joining Medium where I have been trying to put out at least one article a day. That is one of the reasons why if you are a person I know, particularly one that is close to me, you will probably find yourself or a version of yourself reflected in my writing. And this fact has gotten me into trouble many times with those closest to me.

Not Everyone Wants to Be a Muse

You have to come to terms with the fact that not everyone is dying to be your creative muse, and be used for all of your pieces. Not everyone likes having their likeness twisted and shaped to suit whatever story or article you are writing at the moment. Even if you are portraying a said person in an accurate, honest light they might not like you borrowing what feels like a piece of themselves to create your art. And that's ok. It is actually more than ok, and these feelings are completely valid. As a writer and artist, you have to learn how to respect that if you want to keep them in your life. Or at least ask them before you write them into your piece.

I recently was reminded of this fact from a short creative warm-up I wrote one morning. I spent about 15 minutes writing a little story that featured my boyfriend. It captured him in a very accurate light for the first half, and then an unflattering and completely unrealistic light for the second. The second half was supposed to come off as humorous because of how exaggerated it was, but my boyfriend was upset by it. He did not like to see himself represented that way and we had a small spat about it.

This made me realize that over the years as I took inspiration from all the people in my life I forgot to ask them if this was ok. I took their traits as humans and wrote them into my stories and made them do whatever would aid me the most in telling a good tale within these stories. During that process, I did not consider how this might make someone feel.

Reflecting on this moving forward I think I need to be more conscious as a writer about what and who I am taking inspiration from, and whether or not this is ok. While writers will always take inspiration from the people we know, whether that is our boyfriend, parents, friends, or even someone we don’t know sitting across from us in the cafe, it might be a good idea for us to keep in mind the impact our writing might have on the person who’s likeness we are borrowing.