What Is The Difference Between Acceptance and Tolerance

or is there a difference

Recently, I heard a short discussion on tolerance and acceptance which sparked my thinking and imagination.

Then, a few days later the daily reading in one of my Spiritual readings, the Science of Mind’s Guide for Spiritual Living, discussed the same thing. The mention of this topic twice in a day or so reminds me that there are no coincidences.

Everything happens for a reason. So I thought that I would look into this and we could discuss it.

One of Webster’s definitions for TOLERATE is “to put up with.”

One of Webster’s definitions of ACCEPT is “to endure without protest or reaction.”

Ernest Holmes said “I do not care very much for the word ”tolerance” as ‘we tolerated each other.’ That is better than intolerance, but people who are tolerant, because they have made up their minds to be tolerant, are missing a lot.”

Holmes is saying that tolerance is better than intolerance but cautions against accepting tolerance as an admirable goal.

I paraphrase as the reading went on. Can you imagine Spirit, or Higher Power, just tolerating anything or anyone? Can you imagine God looking down at Its own creation and encouraging us to simply tolerate it?

Can you imagine Spirit creating Itself into different types of people to be ignored, judged, or just tolerated? For me to tolerate you instead of love you, I might be thinking of you as irritating or inferior.

For me to tolerate you rather than accept you, I might be perceiving you as threatening or less. For me to tolerate you instead of being in unity with you, I might be imagining you as being unworthy or intimidating.

For me to tolerate you instead of creating harmony with you, I might be holding you as dangerous or lesser.

If I want to live in a world where love, acceptance, unity, and harmony are normal, I must recognize what is going on inside of me. When I feel uncomfortable with others, I must look inside and locate the cause.

Remember the Law of Attraction — what I put into my mirror of life, I get back equally. My own worst enemy is myself. So, why not make myself my best friend, and then everything else will fall into place?

To feel good about myself was a new concept when I came into the AA Program. When I discovered that I could feel good about myself, others miraculously felt better about me, too.

I had tolerated myself and all of my character defects for so long because I didn’t know that there was another, better way. At first, it is uncomfortable but we have been uncomfortable before and gotten better.

The feeling of ease and comfort came soon after I started working my program to the best of my ability and asking my Higher Power for help, by using the Shortened 3rd Step — “God, Help Me!”

Now, I choose this as my way of life each and every day because I now CAN choose. If you didn’t drink or do drugs today, you now have choices. Do you choose to be miserable or do you choose to be Happy, Joyous, and Free? The choice is yours and nobody else’s. Choose wisely!

Thank you, God!

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