What If You Can Change Who You Are

There’s a way to it. Read more; it can be done.

Have you ever wished you could start over? Start your life over? Be anyone but you? If so, then why not do that?

Why don’t you? While we all wish for many different things, this is so big that it must be impossible. Is it? No. You can change. Here’s a portion of what I’ve done:

At roughly age twenty-five, my wife said, “Do you know how you spell tact?” I said, “Of course, T-A-C-T.” I thought this was nonsense, but I wanted to humor her so I could move on. She said, “No, you spell it this way, “Piss On You!”

I was stunned. I said, “What are you talking about?” She took a moment and said, “You’re so busy rushing through life with your hair on fire you don’t see or hear what people are saying, only the part you want or need from them. Then it’s onto the next target.”

Has someone ever said something to you that made you stop in your tracks? I was stunned. I had no pithy comeback. No dismissal phrase. I didn’t even have a joke that would make the whole thing go away with humor. I was stunned.

I couldn’t wait to be someplace else. Anyplace would do. Where could I go? Where could I escape this pain, the embarrassment, the humiliation of what had just happened?

I said, “Honey, I’m stunned and shocked at what you’ve said. I need to be someplace. Can we discuss this at home tonight?” She gave me a pecking kiss on the cheek and said, “Sure.”

What happened next is what changed me. It’s how I became the man I am today.

I was reading the scriptures, preparing for this week’s sermon, when this conversation popped into my head: “It’s not about you, Doug; it’s about others.

Both of my parents passed away at a young age. My father died from a heart attack (age 42), and my mother from cancer (age 44). I felt the pressure of raising my younger brother, fifteen, and my sister, thirteen. I was also married with a son and had just purchased my second business.

I was making everything about me. I became the star of the show in my mind. I had responsibilities, duties, and commitments, and just a year earlier, I had also entered the ministry because the calling was so strong.

It’s all about others, not me. It’s all about others. It must have gone off in my mind hundreds of times. I realized that who I was was not the person I needed or wanted to be.

Doug (my given first name) had to move on. DR is what my parents called me. It is a name that could be associated with the person I wanted to be. I didn’t want to fall into letting the past control my future. And so, I began the process of re-identifying myself. I designed who DR would be. His traits, mannerisms, his focus, his way of helping others. Every aspect I could think of became what it needed to be to fit my new persona and the tagline I created.

Over the years, I found additional aspects of the person I wanted to be. For example, someone noticed that when I walked, my feet pointed outward. It gave the appearance of me walking like a duck. It took watching many people and practicing every time I walked to force my feet straight. I wanted to look more confident and polished to set an example for others.

“How can I be helpful?”

DR began to emerge; I was different; I became the person I wanted to be. A few years later, I legally changed my name to DR. Today, whenever I hear my name, I remember my parents. I don’t know what happened to Doug. I do know that for more than fifty years, my focus has been on the needs of others.

Now, it’s your turn. If you want to be a better person. DO IT.

There is one reason why you can’t be the person you want to be. I sincerely hope you can handle the answer. Ready?

YOU

Now that you know it can be done. What will you do? Continue to wish or want or wait. Take massive action to be the man or woman you want to be. Not what you think others think you should be. NO. UBU means “You Become You.” Remember, everyone else is taken.

As they say, “The ball is in your court.”

Takeaways

1. None of us are perfect; we’re all a work in progress.
2. You CAN change; you decide what changes.
3. Don’t begin until you first no the result you’re looking to achieve
4. Your “vision” must be firmly in your mind to be pursued.
5. Others have done this, and you can too.
6. Problems? You can always contact me through my website. I will respond to requests for help. Connect with me here.

Thanks for reading,

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©DR Rawson

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