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Summary

The article discusses the struggle of making difficult life choices, emphasizing the importance of choosing compassion and kindness over anger and ego to foster personal growth and healing.

Abstract

The author reflects on the challenges of adulthood and decision-making, particularly when faced with the dilemma of starting a family. Drawing from personal experiences, the article highlights how unhealed past traumas can influence current thoughts and perceptions, often leading to anger and resentment. It suggests that every choice is a battle between negative emotions like anger and greed, and positive ones like peace and love, with the outcome depending on which we nurture. The author advocates for making decisions based on values of compassion and kindness, which align with personal growth and the pursuit of one's higher self, despite the initial difficulty in doing so.

Opinions

  • The author believes that unhealed emotional pain from the past can significantly impact our present decision-making processes and perceptions of the world.
  • It is expressed that the influence of our past, if left unchecked, can lead to decisions driven by anger and ego, which are ultimately detrimental.
  • The article posits that our choices are shaped by the information we consume, the company we keep, and where we focus our energy.
  • The author suggests that by consciously choosing an environment that fosters compassion and kindness, we can make better life decisions and move towards a wiser, more enlightened self.
  • There is an acknowledgment that while opting for compassion and kindness is challenging, it is crucial for personal development and aligning with one's true values and morals.

What Do You Do When You Don’t Know What To Do

If you’re stuck between two choices this might help

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Growing up is tough — no one ever said that it’s easy. Sometimes we experience a harsh past that we hardly forget. Even though that has happened a long time ago — we still can remember it vividly. The remaining pain can create anger.

These sorts of pain remain as we get older. It had been crafted deep onto our hearts — without even realizing it — If we ignite the pain eventually it can burst into anger. Those pain hasn’t healed yet.

Unhealed pain also shapes the way we think and how we perceive the world. Since I’m about to get married this year, I started to recall my past event — try to evaluate the mistakes that have been occurred — wishing that I could do as good as my parents or hopefully better.

I’m about to make the hardest decision of my life regarding starting a family. Despite Imagining the future could be a joyful moment, I was quite burned out because of facing two dilemmas. Upon weight in the pros & cons luckily I read this piece — about dilemmas which all of us agonize over.

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Every choice in life is a battle between two wolves inside us. One represents anger, envy, greed, fear, lies, insecurity, and ego. The other represents peace, love, compassion, kindness, humility, positivity. They are competing for supremacy

Which one wins? Definitely, the one you choose to feed — The one choice depends on what we read and hear. By who we spend time with. By what we do with our time. By where we focus our energy and attention.

This affects me on so many levels. I Had been thinking and there was a fight in my mind that provoked me to do things based on anger and ego. I had an unpleasant experience occurred when I was a child. I know that my parents are not perfect but they did a good job raising me.

As I’m about to make a decision about parenting. My past trauma come into my mind — in a form that is against me. They convince me to do something, then make me feel guilty or bad about it, often because it’s gone against our values or morals.

Choosing a decision based on anger and ego would only destroy you and hurt you more. It may only be fun at an early stage, but in a long game, it will destroy you.

Therefore, If you’re in between two choices opt the compassion & kindness. By choosing your environment — what you read, what you talk with, and where you focus energy.

Initially, it is not an easy task to do, however, it helped you to get closer to being wiser as an adult and get closer to reach your higher self

Self Improvement
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