What Can Your Worries Teach You?

There’s always something to learn

Worries, anger, fear, anxiety. When people encounter those emotions, they tend to run away; hide in the realms of positivity where worries don’t exist.

The truth is — we can never find that place by running away. Our negative mental habits are waiting for us — and they are stronger than ever.

The negative thoughts and emotions appear for a reason, giving us the opportunity to understand them and take real action.

But what do we need to learn from that negativity?

Why Running Away Doesn’t Work

Your negative emotions exist because you’ve been forming them for weeks, months, and years; both consciously and unconsciously.

We sometimes took the wrong actions and created fear. That’s perfectly fine, nobody knows everything. We make progress by learning from our mistakes and applying the learned material to our life.

But in the end — we took those actions by ourselves. We were identifying with their consequences for years. We can’t run away from them — because they are us. The reality of our current self; it’s like running away from our shadow.

We run away because we’re afraid; by doing that, we’re making our negative side even bigger. We’re confirming that it’s something terrifying.

That’s why it’s bigger every time we encounter it. And it won’t magically become smaller until we look it straight in the eyes.

We must understand what is really going on. Examine the negativity, see that it’s not so scary. Make the right actions to accept it as a part of the self. We live as a whole; there’s no positivity without negativity.

The Two Types Of Worries

Let’s get back to worries —they are just one form of negativity.

Two types exist — and both of them drain your life energy if you don’t explore them.

The first type is the unnecessary worry — about something you can’t even control or that just isn’t meaningful at all.

You can’t control your future. You can control your current actions and believe that the future will be delightful, and you have to stick with that. Because there will always be something to worry about.

You’ll probably achieve your goals. Or maybe you won’t. Either way, the situation will turn out great. It’s not the end of the world. Let’s not exaggerate everything that’s happening to us — it just creates anxiety.

To get rid of those worries, we must adopt a strict life philosophy for explaining those types of situations. Stoicism is an excellent tool to start with — the wisdom which can be applied to so many events in this modern world.

It will give you the ability to care less about the stuff you don’t even have to care about. But it’s still making you crazy right now.

The other type of worry is actually an alert; strong alarm system which is telling us that we’re doing something really wrong at this moment.

If we text and drive, and worry about getting killed while doing it — it actually makes sense, right?

If we text while driving every time for 50 years, a quite significant probability exists that we’ll have an accident because of it.

We need to become aware of this type as soon as possible and apply the actions immediately. Sometimes, they will save our lives.

We’ve done things like this unconsciously many times — remember those “wow, this was so close” moments?

Your worries made the work in the background and made you miss the accident.

The truth is, those alarms turn on quite often. We need to practice our self-awareness and recognize them.

Being Counter-intuitive

Modern society teaches us that negativity is something bad; that we must heal ourselves from it.

We don’t want that negative stuff to exist at all. That’s why we deny it.

But it doesn’t have to be like that. All of the emotions have some purpose and can be a valuable lesson.

When you experience pain during the workout, you actually like it, don’t you? Because you know the benefits; you know that this pain is making you stronger.

Similar can be applied to negative emotions — those lessons might be hard. But after going through them, we’ll be much stronger.

Don’t let society create your perception, and don’t use that perception as an excuse.