What Are Your Dealbreakers?

5 Rules to help eliminate potential partners

Save yourself time and future disappointments by creating your list of “dealbreakers.”

To find your ideal partner, you must first understand what it is you are looking for. It is vitally important that you create a list or set of rules to which you will not break for any reason while looking for a potential mate. These rules should eliminate certain people from your consideration. The reason for creating this list is to identify the things that are your “dealbreakers.” Things that you would not tolerate from your partner. Obviously, nobody is perfect and even in a relationship, you will have to accept the fact that your mate will have flaws. With that being said, there will always be certain traits within a person that are not compatible with you or what you find attractive. Here is a list of the 5 most common “dealbreakers” for single people looking for a partner.

5. Lacks financial responsibility Fortunately, a person who lacks financial intelligence can change their ways. It is not incredibly difficult to change bad spending/saving habits, but it does require a person to want to take action and make the change. Money has always been a leading cause of failed relationships so it makes sense that some men and women would want their significant other to have financial responsibility.

4. Lacks personal health/hygiene You have to be able to take care of your health before taking care of another person. Bad health and hygiene in a person will not only make them less attractive but also show that they lack certain responsibilities. Nobody wants to be with someone who lets themselves go physically. Some health issues are out of your control. We are not talking about these things. You don’t have to look like Mr. or Miss Universe. However, there is no excuse for completely disregarding your basic health needs.

3. Treating others unkindly A man or woman can be incredibly good-looking and physically attractive on the outside, but if they treat others cruelly, many will see them as unattractive. I dated a woman who fit into this mold:

There are a few important signs that you can look for in a person to find out if they are truly a good person. Look for their interactions with waiters/waitresses. How do they treat the barista at Starbucks? Also, observe how they treat their family members. It shouldn’t be a surprise to you that the person who curses at his parents does not treat you very kindly.

2. Verbal/Physical Abuse There is no place for abuse of any kind to take place. It can be difficult to predict a person to be abusive in a relationship, as there are not always clear signs. Many times a person who is abusive in a current relationship has had similar behaviors in the past. There is nothing wrong with asking questions to those previous partners to see what dating him/them was like. Short tempers, bits of rage, punching walls, yelling at the cashier at the grocery store are all signs that a person might have abusive tendencies.

1. Cheaters This is another area where it might be difficult to predict someone’s cheating unless they have done it in the past. There are also different categories of cheaters. Some will cheat with any random person they find mildly attractive, whereas others might only cheat in the perfect scenario. Here is an article that lists a few characteristics of a cheater. https://www.insider.com/habits-cheaters-have-2018-9#cheaters-are-impulsive-and-cant-resist-taking-that-risk-despite-what-it-might-cost-them-7

Lying and hiding things from a partner are two traits of a cheater. Some people are naturally private and don’t often reveal small things about themselves. However, purposely being deceitful is a sign that a person might be engaging in some behaviors that their partner would not be happy about.

You can be as picky as you want when creating your list of dealbreakers. If you want to include not dating a man or woman who does not make a “six-figure” or has a height or weight requirement, knock yourself out. Just remember, the stricter the requirements are, the smaller your pool of potential partners will be. Regardless of what you decide to include on your list of dealbreakers, make sure it is things that are important to you. These will help you out when looking for your next romantic partner, especially while using online dating. Save yourself time and future disappointments by creating your list of “dealbreakers.” As always, stay positive!

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