What Are The Benefits Of Divorce?
“Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce,” writes Jennifer Weiner in her novel Fly Away Home.
“Don’t spend too much time beating on a wall, hoping it will transform into a door,” said Dr. Laura Schlessinger, according to The Graduate’s Book of Practical Wisdom: 99 Lessons They Can’t Teach in School.
- You will get air to breathe. Yes, and it will feel wonderful. You will no longer feel suffocated in your own abode.
- You will feel more empathetic towards yourself because your spouse wasn’t. You may visit the old good memories but deep within your heart, you will accept those good memories were never enough to make peace with your present.
- You will have a chance to pursue your dreams. If you wanted to become someone this is your chance. I always wanted to become an author and I am living my dream now.
- You will get to feel and heal yourself. Peace of mind matters. Your emotions matter. Feel them and give yourself thousands of chances because you have been judgmental about yourself. Don’t be so hard now. That phase is gone. Learn to love and accept yourself.
- Don’t go out and start dating immediately. Date yourself. I repeat date yourself. Take yourself out. I go on my bike rides and travel alone. I love the phase I am in. I felt bad when someone else decided for me. I feel free in dating myself. I feel as if it’s my new birth.
- Meet people whom you haven’t met but be very wise in this. Pick people from your past especially those who have understood you and stood beside you. Discard those who were rejoicing this. You will make new friends again.
- Some people try to remain friendly with their exes. And I am like really? I don’t entertain any moron from my past relationship because I was done with them for a good reason that’s including my friends. Learn to make new connections if not with people, then with dogs, cats, the universe, and nature.
*Sharing it here from one of my responses on Quora.
“I do not believe that there were more happy marriages before divorce became socially acceptable, that people tried harder, got through their rough times, and were better off. I believe that more people suffered,” Ann Patchett wrote in This is the Story of a Happy Marriage.
Gurpreet Dhariwal is the author of Three books. Her books are available on Amazon, Flipkart, and BlueRose. Connect with Gurpreet at www.gurpreetdhariwal.com
