Summary

The text reflects on societal expectations and double standards faced by women, particularly in relation to their financial independence, physical appearance, and emotional labor in supporting men.

Abstract

The author critically examines the societal construct of the "stronger sex" and the dependency of men's success on women's support. The narrative emphasizes the importance of women having their own financial resources to avoid being labeled as gold diggers, while also highlighting the pressure to maintain a certain physical appearance without appearing too concerned with attractiveness or weight. The text suggests that women are often held to impossible standards, where they must be both providers and caretakers, yet are criticized for being too ambitious or too focused on pleasing others. It also touches on the emotional burden placed on women to manage their partners' egos and the potential for violence if they are perceived as challenging male authority.

Opinions

The author questions why men are considered the stronger sex when their achievements often rely on women's backing.
There is a critique of the expectation for women to have their own money while also being discouraged from discussing or being concerned with men's finances.
The text points out a double standard where women are expected to be attractive but not too thin or too overweight, with the definition of acceptable appearance being constantly shifting and unattainable.
Women are expected to provide for men without overshadowing them, and their success can be seen as a threat to male dominance.
The author expresses frustration with the societal pressure on women to be interesting and engaging for men, without being seen as demanding or a "nag."
There

I’ve always wondered why they consider themselves the stronger sex when their success literally depends on a women’s support

Of course “not all Men”

Or in reality even most Men

But the ones I am thinking about

Are that loud Psychotic misaligned Aggressive minority that has claimed up so much space within our sociopolitical and pseudo -spirituality that the rest of us are obliged to conform to or otherwise hide .

Ok Sooooooo……

It is important to know

That as a girl that

I need to have my own money because I shouldn’t be a gold digger It’s bad to use Men or have to rely on them for their resources Its not wholesome they say Love isnt supposed to be a transactional exchange They claim

And it’s unladylike to concern your thoughts with his pay

“ Oh, ok , I understand “ in a tone that reminds me of being five years old

and afraid/

I’ll go get a job instead Maybe study something meaningful so I can participate in a good enough way

and then my integrity will be known as my actions condone

my purest intentions are being sowed

How dare I compete with the alpha elite Of the man in my home My meager paycheck Speaks an unforgivable tone Screaming morphed I -/ to chokeholds of silent Which is somehow mockingly loud /

The crucifix of bitter defeat

A Martyr made so

By refusing to speak Again I find mys- no / nope

I resign to the decline.

I shouldn’t get too skinny AND know how to cook because then I’ll look bullemic and that’s just gross

Keep a body

Tight and fine

But never crossing the lines

That get moved all the time.

I MUST make sure I don’t get fat too. Even though I’m told that men like nice home cooked meals with lots of meat and potatoes too

Remember a good woman is one

Who knows how to cook.

A man isn’t satisfied unless he is full.

As the container in my divine

I find

I am the desired

Providence and yet somehow

Also influence

Of his appetite

I provide

And also this

His live in bakery

Supply of cozy warmth

The scents of apple pie

And french toast

That essence of home.

But keep yourself trim or you’ll be blamed for the sin

Of subcontaneous collections

And you , by your nature

Surely do not want to offend

You don’t wish to hide that pretty face or waist of yours

Behind

Thick flabs of skin.

But please, ladies try not to be soo obsessed with how to make others feel good about you

Being in your skin

It’s superficial

And scandalous

Why do you want so much attention?

Uneasy

Unsupervised

Uninspired

Unwise

( What am I supposed to eat?)

I must make sure I stay interesting for my Man,because his eyes have a built in tendency to wander and Men like to be stimulated and want excitement I must remember not to be a a “ nag” and ask him to do exciting or interesting stuff I’ve planned or want to check out because Men work really long hours and it’s unfair and ungrateful and impolite and makes him feel like he’s not doing enough and did you know he just worked a whole day?!? This is how husband’s are forced to cheat they say,

They are very sensitive to complaints. You can’t emasculate him , it’s true they tell you And you ask

“ What does that mean?” And they award you this one generosity This one exception and explain That asking that and putting them on the spot was emasculating as fuck And thank God I’m still cute and it’s a first offense because a misstep like that can get you punched right in your pretty little face.

Photo by Aarón Blanco Tejedor on Unsplash