Summary

The article discusses the inevitability of life's struggles and the importance of embracing and learning from them to grow spiritually and personally.

Abstract

The author of the article shares a personal journey of overcoming adversity with the help of a loved one, emphasizing that difficult life events, while painful, are crucial in shaping one's character and outlook on life. The narrative includes the author's refusal to erase a past struggle that led to a deeper spiritual connection, increased kindness, and internal happiness. It also touches on the universal nature of loss and hardship, using the author's own experiences and the wisdom of others, such as Haruki Murakami and Mo Gawdat, to illustrate that being lost is a common human experience and that acceptance and resilience are key to moving forward. The article concludes with encouragement for readers to embrace their emotions, take time to grieve, and seek guidance through resources like podcasts and songs, ultimately finding their way through life's challenges.

Opinions

The author believes that the struggles we face are instrumental in molding us into better individuals.
They express that it's important not to regret past events, as they contribute to personal growth and internal happiness.
The article suggests that continuous acceptance and embracing of hardships is part of life's journey.
It is conveyed that everyone experiences loss and adversity, and it's okay to feel lost during these times.
The author values the role of support systems, such as family and friends, in overcoming personal struggles.
The author recommends external resources, like a specific podcast and song, as tools to help others navigate through difficult periods.
There is an emphasis on the idea that while we cannot control certain events in life, we can control our reactions and attitudes towards them.
The author encourages a perspective of life as a series of lessons, with the belief that fighting and learning from these lessons continues until the end of our lives.

We Are All Lost and It’s Okay

Because that’s how life works

We all have different struggles in our life. And there was a time in my life when something very drastic happened to me and it disturbed me mentally.

Even though I used to laugh and smile around people but there was something bothering me all time. I could sense that my heart is heavy and I craved peace.

I was lost.

But things changed over time. I overcome my struggle by talking to one of the closest people to my heart — my Brother and he helped me to come out of the shit. If today someone says to me that if you can go back in time and if you are given the chance to erase that event forever will you do it?

My answer would be — No, I don’t want to erase it.

Do you know why?

Because that event was hurtful and I stayed with that event for so many years but that event mold me into the person I am today.

It made me spiritually connected to God. It made me kind and generous. It made me realize the importance of life. It made me happy internally.

It was not just the end of the struggle because life takes your test continuously. After, the acceptance of that past, there is always another in line. To date, I embrace every hardship and I realized that sometimes you just have to accept things.

I can give example, my grandmother-in-law’s 18-year young son died. I have heard that for one year she didn’t even step out of home apart from the daily chores. She grieved, and it’s natural for a mother to feel that but as time passed she accepted the fact that her son is no more and can’t come again. Though she grieved till her last breath for her son.

“In everybody’s life, there’s a point of no return. And in a very few cases, a point where you can’t go forward anymore. And when we reach that point, all we can do is quietly accept the fact. That’s how we survive.” — Haruki Murakami

If you are lost and I want to say that it’s okay. Maybe you are going through the worst phase of life but I can say that it will teach you a beautiful lesson and it’s going to be alright.

Life is all about lessons and till our death bed, we all are going to fight for it.

I believe the fact that there will be a time in everyone’s life which will mold them to a good or bad. It totally depends on how they reacted to the event. But that event will be very hard to even accept and digest but it will change your life.

Life is uncertain for all of us. I have lost my uncle because of blood cancer a few months back. It was all of a sudden case. We didn’t even know that this calamity was coming our way. He just fainted, we took him to hospital and within a week he was gone. In the following week, her daughter was about to get married but God showered us with some different plans and he was no more.

It was a nightmare for us.

Maybe you are going through a deadly disease like cancer or you have lost a child or going through some type of abuse or are in debt or going through many other drastic events. I am here to say it’s okay.

It’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay If you’re lost, we’re all a little lost and it’s alright It’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay If you’re lost, we’re all a little lost and it’s alright — It’s okay ( Song by Nightbirde)

You will find a way. Hang in there. Feel your emotions. Take time. Grief. And accept it if there’s a dead-end or change it by working towards it.

I am not mental health professional to guide you but today I listened to a wonderful podcast of Mo Gawdat on Steven Bartlett — The Diary Of A CEO Show. I am sure it will give you all your answers about life. It’s like a whole toolbox of life and will change your outlook on life. Mo Gawdat lost his 21-year-old son and after that, his life perspective changed. He is the master of intellect and happiness expert who will guide you to overcome your lost way.

I am not kidding but it’s one of the favorite podcasts I have ever listened to. Please, do watch it because it’s amazing. You are going to understand your existence on this earth and the way you can find happiness after a traumatic event.

And that podcast will solve your many unanswered questions about life.

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