We All Have Disturbing Thoughts

Summary

The article discusses the commonality of intrusive thoughts, emphasizing their normality and providing strategies for managing them without undue concern.

Abstract

The article "We All Have Disturbing Thoughts" by Julia asserts that intrusive thoughts are a common experience, with 94% of individuals reporting such occurrences. These thoughts, which can range from self-harm to harming others or breaking things, are described as normal and not indicative of deep desires or a reflection of one's character. The author acknowledges that while intrusive thoughts are a normal part of the human experience, they can become problematic if they become obsessive or are symptomatic of an underlying mental health issue. The piece advises against attempting to control or suppress these thoughts, as doing so often exacerbates them. Instead, the author suggests acknowledging thoughts as mere involuntary occurrences, distinct from actions or desires, and encourages sharing them with others to normalize the experience. The article concludes by offering reassurance that seeking help is okay and that support is available for those who struggle with intrusive thoughts.

Opinions

Intrusive thoughts are a common and normal experience that do not define a person's character or desires.
Attempting to suppress or control intrusive thoughts can make them more persistent and distressing.
Sharing intrusive thoughts with others can be beneficial, as it helps to normalize the experience and reduce associated stigma.
Understanding that intrusive thoughts are not premeditations or intentions for action is crucial for managing them effectively.
Seeking help or support for managing intrusive thoughts is encouraged, emphasizing that it's okay to ask for assistance when needed.

It’s normal, and here’s how to process them

Have you ever found yourself driving and thinking “what if I just yeet myself off this road?” don’t worry, I do too. In fact, 94% of us get these random, unwanted, intrusive thoughts once in a while. Whether it’s about hurting yourself, another person, or breaking something, they don’t have to mean anything. They’re not deep desires, and they don’t make you a bad person.

Needless to say, there are people who suffer from intrusive thoughts. Some have them so often, to a certain extent, that it interrupts their day-to-day life or as a symptom of an underlying mental disorder. Ultimately though, intrusive thoughts are completely normal to have. We do not have 100% control over our thoughts. Thoughts come and go. It’s when these thoughts become obsessive that problems will arise. And as long as you have no urge to act on them, of course.

Intrusive thoughts can still be disturbing, scary, and very annoying for people who are otherwise sound of mind. A very understandable reaction is to push these thoughts away. However, as you might have noticed yourself, trying to control your thoughts will only make it worse. Don’t think of a pink elephant — we’ve all heard that before. So what can we do?

Unfortunately, I can’t give you any remedy for these thoughts. Thoughts are thoughts and you will never be able to stop a thought from popping up. However, there are plenty of healthy ways to treat these thoughts. Here are some of them.

When you’re having these thoughts, remember that they do not define you.

You are not your thoughts, you are just the presence that notices these thoughts.

Having a random thought does not equal doing something or wanting to do something. Even if you get anxious or stressed by these thoughts, it doesn’t mean the chances of it meaning something are bigger. Thoughts are involuntary, but you’re in control over your body. You won’t get put in jail for having a thought.

Don’t be afraid to share your thoughts with the people close to you. You’ll notice that everyone else has random intrusive thoughts. Sometimes they can even be quite entertaining.

I’ve said this before, but don’t push your thoughts away. Don’t try to figure out what they mean, don’t try to control them, and don’t engage with them. Just let them pass. I know it sounds easy and can be very hard, but just telling yourself that it’s just a silly thought and moving on with what you’re doing is the best thing to do here.

Understanding that these thoughts may return is also important. As I’ve stressed before, thoughts are like pop-up ads. No way of stopping them. Unless you have a really good adblocker, I believe Elon still needs some time to work on those implants.

However puzzling thoughts can be, I hope this has brought you some clarification and mental tools for the future. Don’t be afraid to seek help or support when you feel like you need it. It’s completely okay if it gets too much, and it’s okay to ask for help. There will always be people who are there for you and can help you; however challenging things may be.

Much love, Julia.

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