Walter Chaw And Dave Chen Overcome Everything Everywhere All At Once
The Eternal Sunshine of Generational Trauma

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Overcoming Everything Everywhere All At Once
Forgiveness is hard. According to Dr. Ramani, a renowned therapist and narcissism expert, it isn’t even always healthy.
Forgiveness has no agenda. You forgive when you can forgive.
But when you can?
Dave Chen Pulls Profound Insight From Every Guest
If you haven’t seen Everything Everywhere All At Once yet, this might be your last chance before it sweeps the 2023 Oscars all the way to Best Picture. But what won’t be lost to time is the profound meaning the movie continues to evoke in diverse audiences.
Daniel Kwan and Daniel Scheinert — directors of EEAAO and known together as “the Daniels” —met film critic and media entrepreneur Dave Chen during a chance encounter on Twitter.

Maybe it’s because the Filmcast and thus Dave played an essential part in Daniel Kwan making it through film school and interning in LA, but that chance encounter led to the three of them sharing personal insights as profoundly moving as the film they were discussing.
From an interview soon afterward with Dave, the directing pair expressed what meant so much to them about making Everything, Everywhere All At Once, one of them saying:
With the generational trauma, I’m realizing as a parent, the act of breaking the cycle of generational trauma can feel so small, and yet it probably is the hardest thing any of us will ever do. And maybe the most important thing any of us we will ever do. Because whatever we pass down to the next generation is going to affect the way that they deal with the hardship and conflict and turmoil that’s going to be coming at them in the next 50 years.
Breaking generational trauma one bagel at a time
Film critic Walter Chaw wrote what might be the most resonant analysis of Everything Everywhere All At Once that I’ve yet to read.
Speaking further on the movie with Dave Chen in two separate interviews, Walter revealed how EEAAO had empowered him to fulfill the Daniels’ mission. After years — decades — of living inside an invisible shell of generational trauma, Walter found a way out through forgiveness for his parents.
Speaking to David Chen at Culturally Relevant, Walter said:
I wonder how much of our parents — my parents — weren’t wrapped up in the wrong thing. Not out of malice or coldness, but out of what they felt like they needed to do to survive here and stay here.
From Walter’s article for Film Freak Central:
Like Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Everything Everywhere All at Once is about the messiness of being human, as well as the glory of it: how you know it’s all going to pot but you do it anyway, because life is for the living of it. It’s about how suffering is quotidian, yet the moments of happiness, however brief and however rare, are enough to keep you warm, if only you could learn to blow those embers into a fire.
Walter Chaw speaking to the Filmcast:
If everything works out, you will outlive [your kid]. That’s if everything goes right. Our lives are tragic. In between, there have to be these moments where we can have a moment and recognize the people that we love as special and precious.
And in closing, let’s return to Walter’s remarks from his article at Film Freak Central:
I wonder if my mom will be able to have this kind of clarity before she goes — that she was in love and loved, and nothing else really mattered.
I hope so. I want that for her. I want it for me, too.
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