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Wait I’m straight, No I’m bi, No I’m Lesbian!!!

Honestly, what does it come down to, and should there actually be labels?

The amount of decisions on what I am when it comes to my sexuality has just absolutely alluded me so many times over it's not even funny. Like on the one hand, there is this set-in-stone ideal decision and on the other hand, I question its very intentions. Constantly we are judged on our sexuality, but is it really sexuality that should be judged, or is it more of a preference?

So before I get into one decision or another, I think the preference is literally a two-sided coin, maybe a Square for those who prefer both. Although, I think I am a triangle, and it is likely possible that everyone else is too, one of the two “Two-sides Coin or Square”. While sexuality has so many choices, doesn’t it all come down to if you like Penis or Vaginas, and if you like both? Like we all have preferences but in reality when it comes to the bedroom and sex, is it not a choice of one or the other, or both?

No matter what your choice is for your sexuality, your choice will likely always come down to what is in someone's pants, and sadly that seems to be the argument across the world about gender and sexuality and sex, mixing and confusing all of them.

Side 1

If you like Penises, and you can’t stand a Vagina, you will always be judgemental about a person with a Vagina because it is just not something that you desire. You may hate the taste, the way it looks, or any number of other reasons that just turn you off about Vagina’s.

Side 2

If you like Vaginas’, and you don’t like Penises, there is nothing in the world that going to change your mind. It could be the size, the looks, the idea of something going inside you, or you just don’t like them and turn you off. You're not going to start liking Vaginas out of the blue just because of the way the person acts or looks.

Side 3

Then some people like both, and you don’t care what you have between your legs, you are happy with either and it's perfectly fine for you. You can meet anyone and be happy with the outcome if it makes it to the bedroom without any additional guidelines that will stop you.

Side 4

The final side is the ones who don’t like either, Penises or Vaginas because they don’t find either of them attractive or desirable. I want to mention that this is grouped in with those who like both but are just polar opposites. But many will consider this as their own choice.

The interesting thing is there is a preference that always takes part in someone's decision on whether they like someone, but your personal choice in the bedroom will come down to what you like. I don’t think that this can be avoided in any situation because there will always be that choice and everyone is allowed to have a like what they like.

For me, I don’t think I really know what I like, because to me it is never about the part between the legs, because I don’t care which one I get, but it does depend on the person. I have preferences and personally, I don’t like 90% of men, but I do have a weakness for Asian men and women but I don’t like any other type of men, they just don’t appear handsome to me. I would say that I am on side 3 because it is not the part for me but the person. I also don’t mind other Trans-Woman, and if they are not really feminine it makes it really hard for me to be attracted to them.

I personally consider myself a Lesbian, but perhaps I am bi, perhaps I just don’t care about labels and can’t decide. What I do know is I don’t like men, but Asian men spark a different interest. So I am confused and complicated, so personally, I think labels are just another thing that people want to be grouped into. I don’t care, just give me someone whom I am attracted too that will love me like I am and not judge me for who I have become.

What about you, what do you think? What is your opinion about this theory? Do you think that there should be more focus on the separation of desire and sexuality or do you think it comes down to the part between someone's legs?