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5d0">Valentine’s Day is known to be about Cupid and Love if you’re looking at it from a non-historical perspective.We all have people we love and who love us or at least I hope we’d at least have that one person who makes our days a little brighter.<ul><li>Family</li><li>Friends</li><li>Pets</li><li>Siblings</li><li>Students</li><li>Yourself (if you’ve reached this point)</li></ul>There’s nothing like the love of those who you surround yourself by every single day BUT we’re not talking about that type of love.We’re talking about the opposite sex or same sex, intimate type of love. The type of love that makes you wake up being grateful for the person sleeping next to you. Your-best-friend-and-other-half type of love. The romantic type of love.When you have this love in your life, it’s easy to tell your single, hopelessly romantic friends that:<ul><li>You need to think about the other people in your life who love you (i.e., parents, friends, dog…).</li><li>V-day isn’t all it’s cracked up to be (cue the gallery of Valentine date night pics of your friends).</li><li>Take yourself out and buy yourself something nice (been there…done that…it’s someone else’s turn).</li></ul>Yes, these are all nice suggestions and commonly used to make one feel anything other than hopeless, but it doesn’t take away the fact that we still want someone to spend this entire day (or half of the day since most of us have jobs) with. Especially if you’re a hopeless romantic who dreads every single moment of this day because you simply want to spend it with your person, whoever they are and wherever they may be.Your feelings are valid. I always say this because it’s true.Anyone who suggests that you treat yoursel

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f or look at the love you already have is either: hardly ever alone on this day or don’t remember what it’s like not to have someone who doesn’t fall in the category of family, friend or dog.<h1 id="d7c3">How Did I Get Out of Being a Hopeless Romantic?</h1>I view the world for what it is. That love and friendship is not guaranteed to anyone. We can’t force love or even like. Some of us are lucky to have it and the rest of us are still waiting to be seen.I stopped viewing romantic comedies as art imitating life. Sure, a man and a woman can finally come to terms with their true feelings and run into each other’s arms before the credits roll and the rest is history (or a good ending for an upcoming sequel) but it’s an occurrence where two people actually have to get out of their heads and do something about their feelings. In the real world we would probably leave each other behind and spend the rest of our lives thinking about the what if’s.Lastly, I don’t treat myself to anything nice on this day. Just because I’ve reached the point of loving and appreciating myself doesn’t mean I’m going to spend money on chocolate, dinner and a movie because of this particular day. I’ll do all of that when I feel like it whether it’s on Valentine’s Day or on a random day of the week. Doing it solely for the purpose of showing myself love on Valentine’s Day feels forced. I’d rather just treat myself on my own time which makes it that much more important to me.If you’re a hopeless romantic who can relate, just know that your feelings are valid, and you are seen. Also know that V-Day lands on a Monday so it probably won’t be that exciting, right? Haha.For the rest of you lovebirds, I hope you have a wonderful Valentine’s Day!Best.-K.L.</article></body>

Valentine’s Day for the Hopeless Romantics

There’s no shame in feeling this way.

V-Day is tomorrow which means we’ll all have to endure the chaos love brings such as long lines at our favorite restaurant, major traffic jams just to get to the other side of town, a dent in our wallets and a melted chocolate bar we forgot to take out of our back pockets (this happened to me the other day).

I don’t celebrate this holiday only because it’s not as jolly as Christmas, haunting as Halloween or a holiday where food is in its ever most abundance like on Thanksgiving. Valentine’s Day could be all of those things and more.

Another reason why I don’t care to partake in the national day of red, white and pink is because I am no longer a hopeless romantic…

What do you mean by this, K.L.?

Putting this in simple words, I no longer feel the overwhelming dread of not having a Valentine. I no longer dwell on never being gifted a “bigger than me” stuffed bear or a massive bouquet of flowers and chocolate.

When you’ve spent a majority of your life feeling FOMO on this particular day, you learn to accept it for what it is: It’s just another day.

Growing up, those darn romantic comedies (thanks a lot Kat Stratford and Patrick Verona…) warped my mind into thinking that romance is the same as our reality when, if you just look around, it’s most definitely not the case.

Valentine’s Day is known to be about Cupid and Love if you’re looking at it from a non-historical perspective.

We all have people we love and who love us or at least I hope we’d at least have that one person who makes our days a little brighter.

Family
Friends
Pets
Siblings
Students
Yourself (if you’ve reached this point)

There’s nothing like the love of those who you surround yourself by every single day BUT we’re not talking about that type of love.

We’re talking about the opposite sex or same sex, intimate type of love. The type of love that makes you wake up being grateful for the person sleeping next to you. Your-best-friend-and-other-half type of love. The romantic type of love.

When you have this love in your life, it’s easy to tell your single, hopelessly romantic friends that:

You need to think about the other people in your life who love you (i.e., parents, friends, dog…).
V-day isn’t all it’s cracked up to be (cue the gallery of Valentine date night pics of your friends).
Take yourself out and buy yourself something nice (been there…done that…it’s someone else’s turn).

Yes, these are all nice suggestions and commonly used to make one feel anything other than hopeless, but it doesn’t take away the fact that we still want someone to spend this entire day (or half of the day since most of us have jobs) with. Especially if you’re a hopeless romantic who dreads every single moment of this day because you simply want to spend it with your person, whoever they are and wherever they may be.

Your feelings are valid. I always say this because it’s true.

Anyone who suggests that you treat yourself or look at the love you already have is either: hardly ever alone on this day or don’t remember what it’s like not to have someone who doesn’t fall in the category of family, friend or dog.

How Did I Get Out of Being a Hopeless Romantic?

I view the world for what it is. That love and friendship is not guaranteed to anyone. We can’t force love or even like. Some of us are lucky to have it and the rest of us are still waiting to be seen.

I stopped viewing romantic comedies as art imitating life. Sure, a man and a woman can finally come to terms with their true feelings and run into each other’s arms before the credits roll and the rest is history (or a good ending for an upcoming sequel) but it’s an occurrence where two people actually have to get out of their heads and do something about their feelings. In the real world we would probably leave each other behind and spend the rest of our lives thinking about the what if’s.

Lastly, I don’t treat myself to anything nice on this day. Just because I’ve reached the point of loving and appreciating myself doesn’t mean I’m going to spend money on chocolate, dinner and a movie because of this particular day. I’ll do all of that when I feel like it whether it’s on Valentine’s Day or on a random day of the week. Doing it solely for the purpose of showing myself love on Valentine’s Day feels forced. I’d rather just treat myself on my own time which makes it that much more important to me.

If you’re a hopeless romantic who can relate, just know that your feelings are valid, and you are seen. Also know that V-Day lands on a Monday so it probably won’t be that exciting, right? Haha.

For the rest of you lovebirds, I hope you have a wonderful Valentine’s Day!

Best.

-K.L.